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writes:I'm confused on quite a few levels. I've been secretly seeing my best friends brother for 4 months now. She knows I like him and that he likes me, yet has no idea we have been seeing each other. I have poked fun at the idea of dating him, and it seemed not to bother her.. Yet I'm still unsure. Him and I get along great, have been out on a few dates and even had a few sleep overs. (No we haven't had sex.He say's he's not ready...) He tells me he like's me alot, and that when we're together he feels like he's stuck to me like glue.He's very affectionate and can't keep his eyes off me when we're together. However, When we aren't together he seems distant, we barely speak, He flops on plans (he works alot)and to me it seem's like he forgets that I exist. We aren't officially in a relationship..But I do like him alot. And I would definitely consider it. I'm wonder if he like's me the same way I like him.. It seems like it, But I'm unsure.I do hang out with my friend quite a bit, And I go to her house, And most of the time he is there.. And we always end up having to act as if nothing is going between us.. But by the time everyone goes to sleep, we kiss and cuddle and talk. I don't want to pretend anymore, yet I'm not sure of where we are going.. Do you think the feelings I have for him are mutual? Also, Should I/how do I tell my best friend? Please help, Thanks.
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reader, heartbroken princess  +, writes (30 November 2011):
do all the parents know about this? if not ask him if he wants to tell them and his family (and yours). if they know (just the parents) then ask him if he wants to tell all your familes.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 November 2011):
 I have no advice for you but I was in the same situation when I was young... (like 14) with my then BFF older brother... in fact, I lost my virginity to this boy... we never were a public item... and while I refuse to regret things I have done, I wish I had not had a relationship with him...
I tend to think that we was women have deeper feelings than men in many cases when it involves physical pursuits... not just sex but cuddles and kisses and affection... we all need it and some of us crave it more than others... and until I met my current boyfriend I have to admit I never knew a man that would rather cuddle than have sex...
have you asked him if he wants to "come out of the closet" about a relationship with you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2011): You should tell your best friend, but I must warn you that you have already been seeing one another for 4 months so don't be surprised if she is upset with you, because you have been lying to her for 4 months already. Be prepared for that, just sit her down and tell her honestly. As someone who has been the best friend that has has a brother get into a relationship with my best friend, I can tell you everything will change, and once it's changed it has forever. Good Luck.
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