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51-59,
*ydrummerboy
writes:I want to know this......I have been hanging out with this guy for sometime now...we have slept in the same bed together and he put my hand on his hard penis then took it away real fast....since then we got together and he masturbated in front of me...he claims he dont think he can perform because he hasnt been with a woman for a very long time...how can he masturbate.... with a woman in front of him half naked??? I feel like he is a taker...and dont give anything in return...it raises too many questions...if he can get a erection and he likes to relieve himself....why wouldnt he take advantage of the situation??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Maybe he is addicted to masturbation. He somehow needs to break free from it and get used to someone other than him self being a source of pleasure.
Somehow I don't think that's the whole story.
I don't think that it is insecurities it think that may be something to do with trust / intimacy.
I think he needs to learn / be taught how to be playful again.
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reader, lungalele  +, writes (24 September 2010):
I think u should try to make him know he has ur support, make him comfortable to talk abt his issues
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Performance anxiety or perhaps some erectile dysfunction?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 September 2010):
 That's quite odd to me. Have you two had sex in the past? Maybe you need to tell him that you're horny too and would love it if you could play with eachother instead of him playing with himself. Ease into it. He's insecure in one area, but completely secure in another.
You can let him know that he'll never get over his insecurities about performing if he doesn't try. Let him know you're willing to help him and not judge him.
You've got an odd cookie on your hands here though. Best of luck.
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