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writes:I'm 15 and i fell in love with a 21 year old. He loves me for me and doesn't want sex. I want so badly to be with him. I've tried talking to my mom about the situation, but she said no about it being okay to see each other. We can wait until I'm 18 but we've been fighting a lot and that has been putting a strain on our relationship. I don't know what i should do. He isn't okay seeing me unless my parents say it's fine, he doesn't want to cause any trouble. What should i do? How am i suppose to get him to spend time with me without it having to be okay with them?
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (29 November 2007):
 This sounds like a really great guy. He is doing the right thing by refusing to see you unless your parents agree. Not many guys would be so forthright. Ask your Mom if it would be ok for him to see you with her present. Perhaps he could come to your house for dinner or to watch tv in the evening. That way she could supervise and make sure that nothing happened that she didnt approve of. Also, she could get your know your beau and perhaps over time begin to approve of him and allow the two of you to see each other out of her supervision. If none of that works, than I am afraid you will only be able to comminicate by phone and online, rather than in person. Once you are 18 you will be able to do as you wish.
Be aware, though, that you will do a lot of changing in the next few years and may not even want him once you are 18. I had an older man interested in me, too, when I was a teen. When I was 15 I would have married him on the spot! My parents told him he had to wait till I was 18, but by then I had lost interest in him. Now I regret not having given him a proper chance once I was 18. Afterall, he had waited a long time just for the chance to date me! Now, years later we got back in touch, have hooked up and are dating! Funny how life works!
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reader, lil-angel182  +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Hey has your mum meet the guy? Cause i was in the same situation, i'm 16 and going out with a 20 year old. My mum was against it but she let me see him on one condition that she met him and everything worked out and she actually glad i'm going out with someone who is more mature and not some boy controlled by raging hormones lol. So I would sit her down and ask her to give the guy a chance.
Hope everything works out for you xxx
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reader, laurastorm  +, writes (29 November 2007):
i agree with peaches,
she is completely right
if you are together when you are 18 then you are meant to be
but if not then im sorry...
you will find love later on in life.
laurastorm
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reader, tinkrebell +, writes (29 November 2007):
i was dating a 21 year old and iam 16 just let me say one thing not everyone agrees and youve got your whole life ahead of you dont let it get u down age gaps make alot of difference
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (29 November 2007):
 Im sorry hunny but you cant.
He is doing the right thing and i salute him for that, not many men would.
Its the ulitmate test for your relationship. If you are ent to be together when you reach 18 you will.
Only other way is to surprise your parents with a meeting of you, them and the guy you want to be with.
Peaches
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