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writes:My boyfriend and I have been officially together for a year now, but we have been seeing each other for 2 years. He cheated on me a few months after we made it official. He slept with her once, but they usually met twice or three times in a week. He's afraid to get caught so ofcourse the only time they met was during the day when he's at work. She works with him and she's his ex too. I don't know what to do. I told myself I have to forgive him because eveyone deserves a chance but only one chance though. I keep thinking about it everyday and I can't seem to get over it. I spoke to that girl (the one he cheated on me with) but she keeps denying everything. I caught them messaging each other and now she's saying she was only joking. She still calls him every now and then. He would ignore her calls and he would even tell me if and when she calls. He is making alot of sacrifices for me and this relationship and in the long run I know we can make it. I am a strong catholic person and in order for me to move on with him is to forgive him and forgive her as well. I'm so hurt because I believed that if he truly loves me he wouldn't do it. He did it after they both got off work and he wasn't even drunk. I'm so hurt, stressed, and depressed. I don't know what to do and what to feel. I hate him, but at the same time I still love him. He has done alot for me and before I found out about his cheating eveything was perfect. I guess that's why it happened. No relationship is ever perfect. Please help me! How can I get over this whole thing?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (29 November 2007):
Yes no relationship is perfect but lying even in the early days is a sign that you got bigger problems ahead.I think your man needs to own up and stop taking advantage of you.I've already seen that you are a sweet loving person who would do anything to make it work but sometimes you may be doing all the right things with the wrong person.For your sake,i hope this guy's love for you is genuine because i see him doing it again,especially that they work together.It's really now a question of trust and commitment.How much can you trust him?How committed can he be to being faithful to you?Those feelings of hurt will surely fade if he impresses you with his committment to make your relationship succeed.
All the best.
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