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writes:i have been on a few dates with this guy. we had something before the summer and also just about 2 months ago however this did not work out because of my parents. me and him have had sexual intercourse and like each other very much, however he will not make it official with me. i have tried talking to him about it, but he keeps coming up with excuses for not making it official. i have heard from 2 of his classmates that he disrespects me and talks bad about me behind my back. he says things like: she thinks i am her boyfriend but thats totally not true i would never go out with her, or ewww she just kissed me for no reason i dont know why she did that. he is so nice to me in person and deep down i think he really likes me however why is he doing all of this? i dont understand. am i being used? what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 December 2012):
 He does not make you official..because he does not want to. You said yourself that his are " excuses ".
You are being used. I think what he likes is your availability and convenience. Said brutally, he can have sex with you, while he pretends behind single and looks for some girl that he can really like, and not only like " deep down ".
Men are territorial, if he actually liked you he would be shouting it from the rooftops. And flaunting you to his friends.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (21 December 2012):
I don't know how old you are but if you're more toward 13 than 15 it's not uncommon for boys to be embarrassed about dating. Why? I have no idea, but I remember being that way. They may not be ready to grow up or have to explain their choices to people.Whatever the case is don't feel too bad about it. It's not nice for sure, so I'd bring it up with him and be honest; tell him what you want from him and be mature enough to leave if he's not willing to give it to you. It's a good idea to learn young that there's no need to put up with behavior that you don't like as there are plenty of people that will treat you the way you want to be treated.That being said I feel like I HAVE to say something about using condoms: no, they don't feel as good, every guy will tell you that and most women will agree. But at this point it's CRITICAL that you use them every single time, no exceptions. If you must have sex at your age this is not an option. You can save condom free sex until you are in a committed adult relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 December 2012):
 you are being used.
he's not a nice person and he's using you
stop having sex with him.
stop calling him or emailing or texting him.
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