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*eandubabe
writes:my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. we have not had sex for almost 6 mos. I do not know if I should leave him or what. I have tried to talk to him about it but he won't talk. he has gained some weight since we started dating but he will not participate in a diet or go to the gym with me. I know we both have issues but it seems like everytime I try to talk to him he clams up. what do I do PLease help!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (4 November 2007):
 Hello.
Because there are problems in your relationship in stead of talking them through, he has taken to comfort eating, i must admit it is the first time i have heard a man do this?, you really do need to talk about this, instead of facing his problems he as taken up using food as a substitute, he for some reason is unable to face up to what ever it is that is worrying him, he really needs to see a Doctor or a councilor, before he damages his health any further.
Hope this helps you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): Well,here is a peice of advice.If he is not going to listen then why even talk.Don't pay any attention to him.Let him eat himself to death.I know you love this man truly but you don't have to ask him to give it up honey.But remember he is your boyfriend not your husband.And the word of god says to only give it up when you have married.But your boyfriend is what we women call Stubborn.Keep up the women-hood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): Very weird. Look its not normal. Sex is a very important part of any relationship. I mean if at least he acknowledged the fact that he is not doing his part trying to satisfy you and atleast gave you a good heartfelt explanation as to why he has changed and apologized and asked you to bear with him till he figured his problem out then I would stick around and tolerate it.
But if he is not even giving you an explanation and is acting like he doesn't even see the importance of sex or why it might irritate you that he won't do it with you, then I would not stick around any longer. If that is how he is acting then that is very unfair, really weird, inconsiderate, and I don't think it is healthy for you.
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reader, rcn +, writes (4 November 2007):
 If you both have issues, then you both need counseling. Maybe they can help you develop a plan to take this relationship in a positive direction. The problem with issues, if you left the issues you have, you'd take those with you to the next relationship. Those issues may play in destroying other relationships.
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