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writes:Is it normal when you are in a relationship for the guy to make all the decisions? If we want to choose a video it ends up not being we. It becomes him. I wanted to watch film that his sister said was really cool about a fashion designer called coco chanel. and he just said no way. then he wanted pizza and i wanted to get a salad and he told me I didn't need it. It feels like all the decisions are mine. I got out my money to buy the salad and he said if you buy that salad you are walking home. Why does he boss me around like this? And how can I stop him bossing me around?
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 You quite categorically tell him that you want salad for your dinner. If he kicks up a fuss, tell him to grow up as you can have whatever (and whoever) you want. If he still kicks up a fuss, leave him to spit his dummy out and don't rise to his tantrum.
Once he starts realising that you won't take any crap from him, he'll soon learn that he can't control you. Maybe play him at his own game. Bring him dinner one night (something that he doesn't like or want and just have a go at him until he either eats it or leaves!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2011): from someone who has been in a controlling relationship - leave, now. you dont want it to get to the point where you cant talk to your friends (been there) or you end up arguing over your family calling / spending time with you (been there) and whilst a lot of maniplative guys dont get violent some do and that is always an issue.
you shouldnt be made to feel bad about having a salad dont get me wrong a pizza every now and then is good but she shouldnt say that to you as its YOUR decision not his waht you fancy. You need to be wit some one who says ok, - thought we could share the pizza and dont thnk you need the salad but sure ill get a smaller size :-)
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reader, Abella  +, writes (13 May 2011):
 This guy needs to grow up. Who assigned him the role of decision maker? He is being a mini dictator.
Work on your own self esteem and say good bye to him and mean it.
He will not improve with age, he will get worse. He bosses you around because he is used to acting like a two year old toddler and issuing his edicts on what is to happen now.
A real relationship is about sharing and trust and this toddler man is not for you.
Never take disrespect from a guy ever again. Show him the door and don't relent. He has some serious growing up to do.
And you deserve a more respectful boyfriend. once who treats you better than this guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2011): Leave him. Then there's no way he will be so disrespectful to you.
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