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writes:i've been dating this guy for 8mo.He went to the bar the last 2Fri without me because I was late getting to his house.He's on housearrest until 7p on a DUI.I asked him if this was going to be a everyfri occurrance. He said I don't know after I pushed him for an answer and he was very tired. I pushed it some more and he said get out. I e-mailed him that I was sorry. will he be sorry and will he call me. Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (5 November 2007):
 He is probably an alcoholic. He won't give it up until he is ready. From the sounds of it he clearly didn't consider your feelings at all by leaving just because you were a bit late. I don't know about in your state but you can get into a big mess if you are on house arrest even with exceptions and are found in a bar. Since he has a DUI against him it is probably a definate NO NO.
I don't know your whole story but I have been thru alot of what you are going thru now. I have been thru even worse with alcoholic b/fs. When you love someone and want make things work you will settle for whatever they are willing to give. DON'T!! You deserve better. If he isn't concered about how you feel because he has the need to get drunk or even to just party without you it is better to let go. You will be free to find someone who can give what you need in a real relationship.
You have already apoligized about being late so let it go. If he can't come to terms with how you feel he is the one loosing out hon. Trust me when I say this you can love all you want but you can't make them love you. You can beg and plead but that doesn't make them respect you. You can want and need change but you can't always make it happen. If it does they often revert back to the same old habits eventually. You can stand up for yourself and not settle. They will either give you respect and change what they to that is causing you pain or it is clear IT"S JUST NOT WORTH IT!! Live your life and be happy you can find someone better.
May God be with you in your darkest hour and bring you safely into the light. May he guide your heart and give you clear consience to do what you need. Godspeed.
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