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writes:So me and my now ex boyfriend dated for seven months. I was totally in love with him, and he told me that he loved me too. Five months into the relationship, he went on vacation, and when he came back, he was different. He wouldn't text me, or hang out with me. Then after ignoring me for a week, he broke up with me. I then found out that while he was on vacation that he cheated on me. Three weeks later I see that he's hanging out with other girls and flirting with them. And I can't help but to feel that I'm not good enough, and I need to know why it hurts so much and why I'm still crying over him.
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reader, karen1989  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 He went on holiday and experienced time away from you, and instead time around other girls-temptation kicked in and he cheated on you, he had a taste of what it would be like to get with different girls on holiday and then probably realised that he missed being single. Your young so i'm guessing hes probably your first love right?.. you've never experienced hurt like this before so its given you a real shock. Truth is your gona get hurt,betrayed, and dumped by a few men in your life. Good news is it does get easier! As you experience more relationships you learn to tell the difference from those guys who are genuine and those who don't necessarily have your best interests at heart. As for this guy your gona be hurting for a little while over this. its inevitable,but then one day your gona meet someone new. Its up to you when you want to start dating again,take yor time you don't want to rush into something new to quickly (give yourself time to heal). For the time being spend sometime with your friends to take your mind off of him. Keep yourself busy! and avoid him at all costs. Good luck.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 It's not you that aren't "good enough" - it's HIM that is lacking. He is lacking commitment, morals and values, which I might add, is sadly normal for someone in your age group.
Take this as a lesson. If a guys start to ignore you and generally treat you like crap, dump him, they just aren't worthy.
YOU can do better.
The reason you are crying over him, is that he broke your heart. Which show that YOU have a heart. So mourn the fact that he wasn't who you thought he was for a little while then dry your eyes, pick yourself up and move on. You can do it.
It's HIS loss.
Cheer up honey.
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