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writes:Hello,I am a college student, and I just recently entered into a relationship with a girl at my school. We hit it off really well in the beginning, but we started going in a direction that I was a little uncomfortable with. It's a long story, but I severely mishandled bringing it up to her. The situation caused a weirdness between us that has led her to feel like she needs some space from me. I don't blame her in the least for it, and the problem was nowhere near as big a deal as I made it.It seems to me that she and I both want the relationship to work, but we seem to have lost our connection for the time being. I'm going to give her the space she needs, but I'm worried that the relationship will just fizzle out. It's a pretty new relationship, and the term ends in a month, so I'll probably end up giving her space for the next 4 months, just because she'll be going back home (very far from me). I know the ball's in her court now, and anything I do to try and fix the relationship will probably just make it worse, but I just don't want this to end so soon, when I feel like there is still something there. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK, so here's an update. During the last conversation that we had before the NC, I told her that I'd call her this past weekend, so I did, but she didn't pick up.She called me the next day (yesterday night) and we had a short conversation about what we'd been up to. After a bit, she said she ought to get back to her homework, and I said ok. As an aside, I think calling her was a bad idea, but I told her I would, so I kind of had to. So anyway, I asked her if she wanted me to keep calling. She hemmed and hawed and said she still wasn't sure how she felt about all this, so I said ok, and that if she ever wanted to talk, she shouldn't hesitate to call. She kind of stuttered out that I should do the same.Now, I would very much like to give this relationship another try, but I don't know how she feels about it. Should I just wait for her to call me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your response. After a few days of head clearing NC between me and her, I have realized and accepted that this probably won't work out, at least in the short term. More than anything I'm just disappointed that it didn't go as I had planned, but then again, it would have hurt more if and when it ended had it gone further. I'll just take it as it comes and see what happens. Thanks again!
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