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writes:i have been with my bf for almost 3 yrs so we really love each other. he is goin away in 3 weeks for 2 months and i wont see him. he is also goin to a festival this weekend and has decided to go early tmo without telling me. when i rang him earlier asking if he wanted to do something he said he couldnt cos his best mate is goin away for a yr which i understand, but he is my friend too and i would like to see him too. i understood though and thought it was just gonna be the 2 of them but then he tells me he's goin out with all the lads - do i have a right to be upset?he's leaving for the festival tmo and wen he comes back we'll only have 2 wks before he goes away - am i just being irrational? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionguys thanks a mill for your help i sorted everything out and i ended up goin out with him and his friends - just stupid fights i think!!he said sorry and its all ok again thanks for taking the time out to reply i really appreciate it wen ppl are ther for you and give you honest opinions!!tak care all xxx
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reader, love-him  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Hey babe u do have a reason to be upset, your boyfriend is going away for such a long time.. but the thing is.. you have to either 'be ok' with it or maybe make a promise to be there for each other when he returns because it will be hard to be together when he is so far apart but it wil be even harder if he goes out with girl friends when he is apart. hope i helped, mail me if u wana talk x x x
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Sounds to me like when he told you he was seeing this friend it was originally the two of them but then it could have spiralled into a lads night out.
To be honest, your bf is probably trying to ease your feelings by the fact that the lads need lads with them and not any females around like gf's etc.
OK so he is going away to this festival, why is it that you are not going, do you not like what is there or were you not invited?
Where is he going for 2 months as well, is it for work and a necessity or a private thing he is doing?
I think you need to calm yourself, you say you will still get to spend 2 weeks with him before he goes away, make it the best 2 weeks going and he will be extremely eager to get back to you.
You have been together for 3 years and so unless you are having problems in the relationship and he is doing things you don't agree with why create the problems as he will only remember aggro if you start being overly possessive or being extremely clingy.
Be honest by all means, but don't be a nagging gf sweetheart as that will push him further away, trust me.
Ask him to text or ring you and write letters to one another while he is away, also do music cd's or something and send photo's of yourself to him, he won't have time to do anything else apart from miss you completely.
Just calm yourself and talk to him openly and honestly OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, Ms_Iwal +, writes (7 June 2007):
I dont think you should be upset the thing with men is they dont think like women! Im sure this giy whos going away has lots of Girl Friends and if its just the lads going out then they all just want to have some time together, you have a whole two weeks before he gos away i wouldnt worry to much life with still go on regardless of where he is and its only 2months of the rest of your lives together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): My bf does things like this too Like in two weeks hes going away for 6 weeks and i was planning a nice weekend before he went as im real upset hes going and then he tells me hes asked to go early to help set up (its a work thing)
You have every right to be upset and angry but try not to show this too much as you wanna enjoy the time before he geos and if you are being upset when hes away it will play on your mind hoow you didnt make the most of your time
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reader, chrissy32789  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 no you have the right to be upset, because if he is telling you that he is going to hangout with his best friend then telling you he is going out with the lads then he should have asked you to come, seeing that he is going away for awhile, but just talk to him how you feel about it and see what he says, but dont get to upset cause you are going to be upset enough when he leaves so try not to fight with him,
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