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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and we live together. I was going through my internet history yesterday to find a website I went to a few days ago and made a different discovery. He has been looking through ALL of my friend's pictures on facebook. I already knew that he thinks she is hot. She is really pretty, so it wasn't too big of a deal. But finding this made me really upset. He has gone through her pictures on multiple days. All were days that I was working all day. When I asked him about it, he denied it at first. After showing him the evidence he said he didn't think it was a big deal. Yes, he thinks she is hot, but he claims he just wanted to find out more about her. I still think there was a different motive behind all of it. Maybe it's not even a big deal. I'm just really confused and upset about it and I have no idea what to do. I don't think he would actually cheat on me, but I also don't want to stick around if he would rather be with one of my friends.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (29 June 2010):
 Hello. If your partner thinks your friend is hot and hes been looking through her pictures multiple times. And hes told you he wanted to find out more about her. Then it sounds as if he has a crush on her. If it was a media star ect it wouldnt be so bad but its your friend and thats a bit too close to home for comfort. It might be a good idea to have a plain chat with him and find out if hes happy and wants to be with you or not x
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reader, QZ +, writes (29 June 2010):
 Talk to him about it and be up front and lay down the law. If he thinks he can get away with something that upset you, he'll try to do it again. While looking at her page maybe once or twice is nothing to fret about, the fact that he's done this on multiple occasions AND while you were at work is worrisome. If you catch him doing sneaky things again... Maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship.
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