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writes:Please somebody help me here! i am driving myself crazy!!I'm 15. This is the story and i will try shorten it as much as i can. I was dating a guy for 2 months, he dumped me a week before valentines day. i was sooo upset i literally felt like dying!A few days after he dumped me, i found out he had a new chick already and i couldnt believe it! We recently started talking again and he keeps telling me he loves me sooo much and he is sooo sure we will be together again but not at the moment. He said he needed space from me for a while and thats why he was going out with the other chick. how does that work? He kept saying he doesnt love her.Now we have been speaking quite often!! he knows i love him so i didnt bother lying about that. i told him exaclty how i felt about him.Now i found out that this chick dumped him. He says he wants me back but for now he just wants to stay friends with me, he said we'll be together after the holidays. Ok this is my thinking.. he only kinda wants me now that this chick dumped him. but why is he waiting before taking me back?I also just heard that he tried sooo much with this chick. and the reason she dumped him was cos he was moving too fast with her. He told me all they did was kiss! and they actually went a lot further! why would he wanna be so serious with a girl "he doesnt love"? I also found out he said really horrible things about me after he broke up with me.^^ I found all that out from his ex girlfriend now.. its weird. he gave me her number so i could tune her cos she was giving him shit. I added her and instead of being rude to her and all that, i used it as my opportunity to get info. that is how i know all that. Another thing... why on earth would he give me her number if he knew that there could be a chance she'd tell me this stuff.. which she did!And i don't know what to do anymore. I should hate his guts rite now! i know! and everyone i speak to about it says i should just forget him and move on. But the thing is he was my first boyfriend i loved him sooo much. he accpeted me for who i was, i didnt have 2 put up a front around him, i was just me and he liked me for that. it sounds crazy but i would still do anything to have him back and he said he wants me back in the future. somehow i think i cant trust him again but i love him so much that i would even be willing 2 take that chance.PLEASE !!! ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT !!!
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reader, TakeItOrLeaveIt +, writes (6 March 2007):
TakeItOrLeaveIt is verified as being by the original poster of the question Guys ! thanks so much for your help. Its so good knowing that somewhere in this world there are people who can give me advice without judging me! :)
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reader, Dagwood +, writes (5 March 2007):
 As Eve says time to move on! You can't be his friend if you have feelings for him so a clean break is much better anyway. If you keep in contact the hurt feelings only get worse. Remember love is a verb... it's something we feel. We decide if we're in love, it's not a physical thing even though it might feel this way. Say to yourself that you don't love him anymore because YOU choose not too. He's stringing you along because he's not sure of what this other girl is going to do so you're probably his back-up! I don't think you want this for yourself right? You'll be fine, enjoy going out with real friends right now and join a club or something to keep you busy. Take care
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (5 March 2007):
 You were with him for a short time. He was your first love but it didn't work out. Forget him and move on. He's only keeping you hanging. If he needed space to think things over another chick should never have entered the scene. The bottom line is love, he didn't like you enough, you weren't compatible. Play hard to get with him. Let him know he's not "all that." Go out and be with your friends and enjoy yourself and don't believe a thing this sleazeball tells you.
You really DO deserve better than him. You are very young and you'll have lots more boyfriends before you're ready to settle down with the right one. Put this relationship down to experience and move on. You'll see, once you meet other boys just how different they are and how different boys treat you differently but tell him to go and take an run and jump! You definitely don't need him in your life, he's only used you and is now trying to keep you hanging.
MOVE ON!
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): You know i WAS IN THAT SAME SITUATION You want him back right? Then meet other guys like he did and pretend that you also wants to be friends He would be later so desperate that he will ask you out again But dont be too desperate when he asks you out
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