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writes:It is so hard to forget what my ex has done to me. I bring up the past when I know I should move on but it's really hard. I have unanswered questions for him. He's cheated on me but it's really hard to move on. When I go to stores or drive around, at times, I see the girl he cheated on me with. I want to say and/or do something so bad but it's really hard not to. He claims she was 19 at the time but found out she turned 18, he's about to turn 39. I have been doing my background checks on if he was messing with her before she turned 18. This give me more lee way for my child custody case.He also mentioned to me, he has talked to her mother and she will help him in anyway she can. This woman is in denial of her daughter being a big time "ho". Everytime I think about it, I get so angry, I want to do something. He has brought the worse part of me out and it's not me at all. How should I go about this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your input. I know I am a better person. Don't lower my standards to his level. It's really hard and I have been hanging around positive people which helps out a lot. Encouragement from my family and close friends. Some people look at him and feel disgusted (associates, friends, co workers) when they see and or even look at him. Thanks again for your input and advice. God Bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Just walk away with your head held high. You will be the winner in the end by acting like this. Please do not ever look to take revenge on anyone, just let them wallow in their own pit! Try and forget, i know it will not be easy, but with time and effort from you, you will get there, but never do anything else, you will regret in the future.
Take care
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (5 March 2007):
 I'd tend to advise against speaking to these people, if you do it usually turns into a viscious circle of tit-for-tat which is never good. Although it is perfectly natural and normal to want to do this. This may sound a bit quirky but try it; write down everything you are feeling, all your angry thoughts and such and burn them.
I would also say that if you start retaliating it might in the end squander any advantage you have in the custody case. Don't lower yourself to his level, you and your child deserve better, just let him get on with it. Hope that helps, take care.
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