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writes: Hi there i've been involved with this guy for 7 years now, we were so in love and we were both committed to each other. last year i found out hew as cheating on me with a girl from next door, he says it was just plan sex , he doesn't love her,i couldn't handle this so i started dating myself, but we are still together and i still love him, is there hope still yet in this relationship, confused one Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2006): I have just ended a relationship of ten years. I found him ho boing around at my high school when I meet him. after having his two sons I had known that he had an affair with his ex- well of course he promised he wouldn't do it again but guess what... he did... so I cheated on him but i only actually did it once. I felt like shit. Not only that but it certainly made things worse.
Bottom line if you think your man is cheating, he is, and that means he is not the one to marry. Leave him alone.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (14 March 2006):
 What a mess, you did to him what he did to you and it has all got out of hand.
there may be a chance for the relationship but my opinion is that you both need to finish it once and for all.
There is now no trust, no respect and very little in the way of real love.
What on earth are you clinging onto, he abused your trust by sleeping with the girl next door, it does not matter in fact it makes it worse that it was just for sex.
Ditch him and re-gain your self respect and dignity.
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reader, mystify +, writes (14 March 2006):
 id think about moving away if this is possible , i cant imagine it would be easy to let this drop seeing her every day , living right next door.
you say youve dated, maybe youve evened things out in your mind but if you want to make a go of your relationship it is time to stop and focus on rebuilding a life together.
if you dont think you are gong to ver get over this then leave as it will only eat away at you x
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (14 March 2006):
 If you are still together after you have both dated different people during your relationship, I would say that there is a good chance you can continue being together if you both agree that you will stay faithfull to one another from now on.Trust is a very important factor in any relationship, and without it you could find things change between you.It seems the grass seemed greener for your partner when he cheated on you for your next door neighbour and you retaliated by dating others as well.If you are both willing to forgive and forget, put this in the past, and ensure that's where it stays, move on and enjoy your lives together.If you love each other there's nothing to say you can't ride this storm. Be honest with each other in the future, and if either of you cheats again call it a day.Good luck!
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reader, shania +, writes (14 March 2006):
 While it is tempting to get your own back by dating other guys,it rarely works out for the best....revenge may make you feel better in the short term but the effect doesnt last long.Now your boyfriend said that it was just plain sex and didnt mean nothing....but of course it meant something to you,he hurt you and you feel cheated and betrayed.Is he genuinely sorry?....is he doing all he can to earn your trust again?....If he seems not very concerned on what he did...then maybe you should take a good,hard look at your relationship and see if you want to be with someone who doesnt seem too bothered on your feelings,but and its a big but....if he is totally remorceful and says that he wont do it again then he deserves a second chance....but only if you truely believe him.The ball is in your court now.Good luck.
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