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writes: i have been with my man 5 years hes cheated on me with seven other women and his only defense is that i flirted with his friend when we'd only been together a week ,i am trying to forgive him but is he really worth the upset as we have two children together
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reader, love bug +, writes (15 March 2006):
I no that most people tend to put there children first when it comes to things like this but if he has cheated on you with seven other women I dont see that he really cares about you enough to stop. Most guys always apologize unless there is a reason for it which he obviously seems to think there is, he is just trying to turn it on to you this isn't fair you need to sit him down and ask him exactly what he really wants and remind him that its not just your heart thats breaking its his childrens too! if your really not happy and he carries on to do so then hes definetly not worth the hassle!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2006): Get rid - now!
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (14 March 2006):
 I think you are too good to have put up with this for so long.
I think this beyond repair and I think you need to have a bit of confidence and self esteem about this - this man obviously has no respect for you or your family.
His excuse is pathetic and you will be too if you continue to put up with this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): Is this is a trick question? I'm dumbfounded by the lack of sensibility in this comment - especially this line, "i am trying to forgive him but is he really worth the upset as we have two children together".
Ladies, may I use a bit of sarcasm here and answer with, "Of course he's worth it! You should forgive him and continue life with that bastard piece of filth!"
What in nine hells are you thinking woman!
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (14 March 2006):
 I am surprised you have put up with him this long, for gods sake kick this cheating love rat out of your life, the kids and you will be better off without him.
You know that his blaming you is so wrong and it is just his way of trying to excuse his appaling behaviour, ditch him and do it fast!.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): If you had told me, he cheated 'one' time, I would've said-forgive and try to fix this. But, you have a man who is nobody's boyfriend. He is a serial cheater and a user. He has 'entitled' himself to cheat on you because you flirted, one time, a long, long time ago. This is a smokescreen..a lame excuse to hide behind who and what he really is. It comes down to his lack of values and his questionable character. He does not have the empathy or compassion to be involved in a relationship with a woman and children. He is an empty well and there is nothing lonelier than being 'in love' all by yourself. It's hard to forgive a man like this, because of the pain he causes you, does or will adversely affect your children. Be strong and never allow anger or grief cloud your choices you have to make, to move on and have a life that is open to love, and commitment. If you were to end this relationship, you'll have the possibility of meeting someone, in your future, who is worthy of your love. You may have to begin the process of seeing a lawyer, and establishing custody and financial support for your children. I wish you luck, in whatever choices you make, dear..but make a choice that makes YOU and the kids happy. They should be your priority.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2006): He is not worth your time. Just let him deal with the children and you move on with your life. You know you need to do this. Good luck!
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reader, shania +, writes (14 March 2006):
 This man is trying to justify his actions by blaming you for his womanising.Im afraid it looks like his weakness is women and he either loves the chase the excitement and everything else that goes with it....and he cant stop....its an addiction,and while you are still with him and turning a blind eye...he is going to keep doing it.I know you have two children together but thats not a good reason to stay with him,dont you think you deserve better? Would your children want their mother to be unhappy for the rest of your life? Some how i dont think so.Another thing,you could pick up a nasty sexual disease...from any of these women he has been with...you owe it to yourself...your health and your children to put an end to it....you asked whether it was worth the upset? No dear,it isnt.I think you knew that already though.
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