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writes: Met a guy who had been cheated on and left by his wife three years ago, he works hard and loves his small children.We began dating, seeing each other every few days, he got to know my son, then out of the blue just before xmas he text me saying he wasnt ready for a relationship, we managed to chat on xmas eve and seemed to have sorted things, we were to spend new year together, up until the thursday night he was texting and calling saying he loved and missed me, then saturday, one day before new year he text again and said he couldnt do the relationship, i feel he is scared of being hurt, and have told him this but he wonyt talk, what should i do?
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reader, jabey  +, writes (4 January 2007):
I think the only answer is now to give him space. Dont contact him unless he contacts you. You I presume have laid all the cards on the table told him how you feel etc. If so then this guy knows how you feel. He obviously needs time to really decide whether to take the risk, and the problem is although we feel it natural to convince someone to our way of thinking, often this has the reverse affect.
If he has silence from you he wont need to be pulling away from you with reasons why he cant have a relaionship. It will give him time to miss you more and think god I cant do without her, Im going to take the risk. Let him come back to you. I know he will. Grit your teeth and be patient. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): hi just read ur letter,im a guy who was in same situation and it wasnt becouse of commitment it was becouse i still love my wife,i liked the woman i was seeing but couldnt committ becouse of my ex,please ask him whats going on it may help,prob not the answer you want but it could be that,hope everthing works out.
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