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writes:I thought I had been dating this man. we met at a night club, and we kept catching eachtother's eye, so as I was leaving with my friends, he grabbed me by my waist, we chatted for a while, then he gave me his number. I called him about a couple of weeks later, and then we went out on a couple of dates. At first he seemed the perfect gentlemen, but after we had sex he started to change. He no longer wanted to take me out. He wouldn't always return my calls, and he just made me feel like I was not appreciated, even though we were supposedly in a relationship. Finally I'd had enough of him, so I called him and told him it was over. He was like "fine." But then a couple of days later he called me, and convinced me and sweet talked me into coming over his house. we made love, and then the next day I wanted to talk about how we could make things right between us. He insisted that he had to leave and that he didn;t have time to talk. So furious, I stormed from his house, and into my car. He follows me outside, where he finally confesses to me that he doesn't think we are going to work out. I aksed him why he didn;t just leave me alone instead of giving me false hope that we would work things out, and he wouldn;t answer except to say that he still wanted me in his life. Also he says that if there is anything i need to ask him. He knows i need some financial help, and he said that he would still help me as he has stated he would previously. But now im feeling empty, hurt, and confused. I dont know what he wants from me, and I feel as if he has been playing with my emotions........I dont know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, essential_tee +, writes (13 November 2010):
essential_tee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for all of your responses. as one reader put it, i DO need to take off my rose colored glasses
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): Did you make him aware that you wanted a relationships with him? maybe he thought it was just a one night stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): My guess is he just wants sex and you would be better off without him.
You may get hurt less another time if you could take the time to get to know the person properly before having sex. It makes you very vulnerable once you have sex. Just a thought.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): What he wants from you is sex, it's pretty clear really you just have to take off the rose tinted glasses. He was nice to you before you had sex because he knew by saying things you wanted to hear he could get what he wanted. Next time don't sleep with a guy unless you are positive he wants a relationship. I'd say wait at least 3 months.
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reader, soon567 +, writes (11 November 2010):
Thjis is a FWB and see it for what it is.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 November 2010):
What he wants from you: a bed buddy. Unfortunately, some guys do this. In other words, he likes you as a "friend" and will have sex with you, but he won't make any sort of committment to you. Don't expect anything from him, especially anything financially. If he gives you any money he will only make you feel like you're obligated to give him what he wants because he gives you money...and isn't that kind of being like a prostitute? Besides that, don't count on him for anything. Let this guys go NOW! He's only going to continue to frustrate you emotionally and continue to give you a glimmer of hope while nothing will happen. Trust me, been there, done that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): He just wants to use you for sex, its obvious! Most likely your not the only one. If you're looking for a relationship look somewhere else.
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reader, hiro06 +, writes (11 November 2010):
Ok in all honest he doesnt like you he just wants you for sex takes a guy's advice on this seen it too many times. He acts all sweet has sex with you, you dont hear from him until he wants sex again and now he is going to keep you around for sex. When he wants sex again he is going to call and apologize and act sweet maybe even say he wants a relationship with you, but it will all just end the same way. Please realize that he is a dog and all dog need to be put down. So in order to safe yourself heart ache and confusion end any and all contact with him.
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