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writes:i am totally in love with my bf and he loves me but he thinks we should move on to the next step and that is sex what should i do? me and my bf have bein going out for 6 years i was in six grade and he was my brothers friend in 8th grade. i am 16 and he is 18 right now and he has bein waiting for me to be ready for sex and now that i am he wants it what should i do?? i am afraid he has waited to long and he will dump me if i dont do it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): You say he's been waiting for you to be ready and 'now that you are' he wants it? Is he the one saying that you are ready, or is it you that feels that way? It sounds to me that you're not sure yet (meaning you're not ready) and I don't think that you should do anything you don't want to do or aren't comfortable with yet.
Even though you've been going out for so long and he's been 'waiting', that doesn't mean you HAVE to do anything either now or later even. If he chooses to leave you for that reason, then clearly he wasn't as interested in you for YOU as he should have been. Look out for yourself, do what YOU want, because if you do it just for him, you may regreat it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2009): If you are ready, and you both love each other... Go for it (just make sure you see him put the condom on properly each time)!
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reader, Blod  +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Even though you've been together for years, you're both still young. You have plenty of time. So unless you're absolutely ready, don't sleep with him. You need to feel sure about this and he should respect that. It's one of those things that you could regret when you're older.
If you're not ready and he dumps you, then be grateful you've got rid of him. He should respect your feelings and appreciate how you feel. That's what a decent boyfriend would do.
Good Luck. X
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 October 2009):
If he dumps you because you don't feel you're ready and you refuse, he's not all that great. Don't be pressurized into doing something you dont want to.
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reader, confused56  +, writes (4 October 2009):
If he really loves you, he won't dump you. However, you do have to realize that guys have needs and he is at a different need level in his life, being 18 and all. He may want to go out and "explore" if you choose not to.
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