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writes:My boyfriend of 6 years decided he needed time apart. He wasn't treating me that well lately an was turning small meaningless arguments into big scandals. We have had problems in our relationship, which is normal for every couple, but I was always the one who acted more calmly, worked things out and compromised. The stress from work had become huge for him and he poured all his negative energy onto me :( Nevertheless, I stood by him and was by his side, giving him all my support. So, he told me on the phone?! a week after he said to me many hurtful things, that I deserve so much better and I should be with someone who loves me and does not treat me that way. He also said that he wants to see if he misses me and then he will come back and will know that it is forever?!. Even though my heart was breaking, I told him I respect his decision - he knows how much he means to me. I didn't do any of the desperate stuff- begging, texting him, etc., eventhough I missed him soooo much. I have not contacted him since and it's been 1 1/2 months. I saw him a week ago accidentally at a cafe. He came up to me and asked me how I was - he looked sad and I know he misses me, but he hasn't called me yet :( I sent him a card for his Birthday but he did not reply?! I do not know what is happening and what to do - after all its been 6 years and we were like married... We both wanted a to have a family (I guess he was the one who was more hesitant about starting a family, even though he is 36 and I am 26). At least I know for sure he is not seeing anyone else. I am so confused right now :(! Is he going to come back to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): Thanks for the kind words, Skeez :) Happy for you that you are together with your boyfriend!
On several occasions during our relationship after we had a big fight or an argument he would not call me for a week or even longer even though he was the one who should apologize :) - quite manipulative and controlling on his side, btw. After the week or 10 days of not calling me and me going insane either he would finally do it or I would call him and he would behave as if nothing happened! So based on that I don't look at the month as such a long time :(
Now my best friend says that I spoiled him with my attention and care and that I gave him everything on a platter and he just does not value what he has and what he receives anymore. maybe she is right :(
Hope he comes to his senses...
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reader, Skeez  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 Hunni this guy hasnt made up his mind and its been one month and a half. This must be so difficult for you. Ive been in the exact spot. My boyfriend said he needed time to see if we were right together but it only lasted for a couple of weeks, unfortunatly he ended it after all the wait but were back together. But i went through the most horrible time and etc.
But anyways..if he really missed you I dont think he would be able to stay away from you for that long.
Give this guy up. Your waiting for nothing. If he cared he would have been back with you ages ago.
Delete his number from your phone and if you see him just ignore him.
I know it will be difficult and really horrile for you but your waisting time in which you could be enjoying yourself and getting over this.
If you really need to talk to him, then do so and make sure you get every question that you want answered.
Goodluck and stay strong.
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