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writes:I like this boy but his mates don't like me, he said that if we do go out then we would have to keep it secret. I'm okay with doing this. What Should i do ?Help !!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): Hi there, it is never a good idea to keep a relationship a secret and not a good start for either of your characters at your age. Tell him that you would agree to do it for 2 weeks until they get used to the idea. His mates are obviously a little immature and probably scared of losing thier friend because they don't have girlfriends.
Then ask him if he can have a responsible discussion with his friends, along the lines of 'please be respectful to my girlfriend she is respectful to you, just because I have a girlfriend doesn't mean we are not friends anymore'
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reader, princessgreen97 +, writes (28 February 2011):
Just tell him you dont want to keep it a secret and if he cant handle his friends knowing then he isnt worth it from my past experience you cant have a proper relationship anyway if no1 knows I hated keeping it a secret so I told one person and they told every1 else so... you can never really keep a relationship a secret if it is a proper and true relationship. If he says he doesnt want to tell anyone just dump him m8 you will be better off without him no1 wants a boyfriend that doesn't care! I hop this advice helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): What should you do? You should tell him to let you know when his friends are going to stop running his life and if you arent already taken by then you might consider going out with him.
Ditto with what Caringguy said. He should be proud to show you off. You shouldnt be okay with being anyones secret ever for any reason. NEVER SETTLE FOR SECOND HAND LOVE. DEMAND ONLY THE VERY BEST FROM LIFE BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH IT. It is best that you learn this now rather than begin a life long track record of accepting any second rate thing that gets tossed your way.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 February 2011):
Any man who wants to keep you a secret from his friends isn't worth your time. Ever. He should be proud of you, he should want to show you off and a true man will stand up for you against his friends. If he's keeping you a secret, then he's a coward and he'll never be there for you.
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