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writes:he's asked me to add another women and have a 3some but when i asked him "would he ask for it again?" he said why not. we have our problems here and there. but he's mine. he's been mine for a full year and some. he tells me what about his needs? i tell him they dont matter when it comes to this situation. cause i dont want to walk in and find this chick and him having sex cause i will be pretty mad. what should i tell him to make it clear i dont want another women in our sex lives or our relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys for the information
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reader, Matt Huston  +, writes (26 June 2007):
I've been in relationships where we've had threesomes. It can be fun, no question about it. However, these women were just as willing as I was. If this is not something you want, then don't do it! WOMEN UP and be strong.
Tell him it's your fantasy to have a threesome with another guy and ask if he's open to that. If he says no, then just smile and say "well you're not getting another girl if that's the case."
Simple. Makes a point.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (26 June 2007):
I won't comment on this one,as CommoneSensei and Rhythmand- blues have really told you where the rubber hits the road, when it comes to what you want in your relationship.
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reader, CommoneSensei +, writes (26 June 2007):
As a male, I can tell you that this guy is pretty ballsy and also pretty stupid. Tell him NO and explain to him that unfortunately for him he doesn't live in a porn movie and that just his request for this may have irreparably hurt your ability to trust him and he better get started on trying to repair that trust or your gone. Seriously tell him that. Would you ever request another man for a threesome? And if so would he be cool with that? The answers to those questions are probably NO and NO. So why put up with this crap from him?
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 tell him its alright to fantasies about these things, and even ask to participate BUT when no has been said it means no, and that if he wants any sex life at all he will stop pressurising you into something you dont want. If he keeps asking you may eventually become self consious, like you arent enough for him. so i`d tell him straight that it means bloody no and if he asks you again then ban him from the bedroom until him and his 'junior' understand. :) worked for me, hehe. hope this helps hun x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): You tell him you do not want another woman in your bed, you do not find that exciting, attractive, and you feel hurt and betrayed by his lust for something that will not add to your bond of love.
Personally, I don't think this bodes well for your relationship him asking for the threesome, I think he is in your relationship for the sex and the sex alone, he is not thinking long term where you are concerned. If you want to continue dating him casually then that is OK, but if you have deeper feelings and you want a future with this guy, you may be there alone. I speak from experience and I don't want to rain on your parade, but I am telling you his request speaks volumes about his respect for you and how he thinks about you as a long term girlfriend, and this is not good....I would be thinking about kicking him to the curb, girl.
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