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writes:I've met a guy online 3 years ago when I was outside the US - we talked a lot - mostly sexual converstions. We lost track of each other and I got married to someone else a year later and returned to US. I got pregnant from my husband then things got really bad between us (even before the pregnancy). We got a divorce during my first trimester and he disappeared. It was very difficult to get used to this. I was so lonely and joined some dating website trying to overcome what I'm going through. I was talking some interesting gentleman whom after a few conversations we shared are real names - funny enough, it was the same guy I used to talk to when I was outside the US before my marriage. To make it even better - he was living a few blocks away now!!! We met. it got really intimate between us without any feelings displayed - mostly physical attraction. I told him about my pregnancy and it didn't seem to bother him. He always insisted on being friends though. However, I started having feelings for him and asked him if we can even start exploring the potential of us just dating at least. He was completely against the idea. I was getting too attached that I had to step away from this relationship. As hurting as I was, I decided to move on on my own and be content with my current life before finding a partner - if ever.I had my baby - she's five months old now. Beautiful beautiful doll. two months ago, I texted him again (the guy who lives near by) and we met. He met my daughter and ever since kept on asking about her and how she's doing. He texts me everyday, every hour - it's crazy. not surprisingly, i started having feelings for him again. He told me he wants to be friends and I just can't do that. I want to know that we're at least exploring our potential in dating.He kept on insisting that even though he likes me and my daughter a lot, he just wants to be friends. Last night, I've had it. I dont' want to play this game again.So I asked him - why not?He said: I don't see myself dating a girl with a kid now. I like you and your daughter a lot - but I feel I'm not ready for that.I like him a lot - but I'm hurting again.Do you think he'll come around and change his mind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): No find someone who loves you and your daughter enough to be with you. Yeah he might say he likes you and your kid but not enough to date you so go and find someone else who loves you both enough to date you. Do not wait for ANYBODY. Forget about him and tell him to leave you alone or just simply ignore him because he will just string you along and keep playing mind games. He'll probably try to convince you to be his friend with benefits and you don't need that. You need a serious man who can take care of you and your daughter and later on marry you again so you can rebuild your life better this time. Be strong. Take him out of your life so he doesnt keep you wondering and look for the right man.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 January 2010):
He won't. He's telling you straight that he is not ready to take on you and your daughter. You have to let him go.
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