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writes:I am 15. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months. We have done pretty much everything, except sex. He wants me to, and I think I do too but Im still not positive and Im having second thoughts. I keep thinking of things that can happen, like if I get too wet or soemthing. Im VERYYYYYYY body consious and I get embarrassed/nervous easily. I need help and advice quickly because I am really confused and I dont know if it is right for me to do this. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2007): well I am also a teen and going thru the same situation. I think its better to wait until u are absolutely ready. If u are still having 2nd thoughts about this then u are not ready yet. Best of luck =]
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reader, shortybabes  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 If you're not ready then don't do it and remember you are also too young, it is against the law to have sex under 16. Don't do it just because your boyfriend is ready, you both have to be sure that your ready. It's a big step in a relationship.
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reader, goodlistener +, writes (6 June 2007):
If you don't feel you are ready, don't do it girl!
If he really likes you he will understand and wait.
Just have a conversation with him and explain, he should understand. If he doesn't, then really truthfully he is just after one thing. After all there are plenty more things to do then just having sex.
Good luck honey, you are worth it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): well, you are very!!!! young to be thinking or having sex! you should just wait until the time comes and wait for that moment.... so think about what your doing!
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reader, cuttieicy  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 My advice to you give your virginity after youve get married.Look at me I lost i thought it is alright but i suffered the consiquences now no body respect me.It is just puppy love dont be too hurry you should finish your studies go , to college, get a career.If he really loves you he will never touches you,he will wait. Listen dont be envy to others remember there are lots of diseases out there, STD AIDS etch.just give it to your future husband.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 Hi
at 15 i dont think it is a good idea for u to consider sexual intercourse you are still very young i dont know what are the laws in your country but in south africa the guy can face statutory rape charges for having sex with a minor. this is one decision you need to make out of maturity because if u do it under pressure you will regret it for the rest of your life. the fact that you are body concious is not a coincident its because your body and mind is not yet ready for such activity. when u are ready you will not even care what your bf will think of you nature will just take care of everything.
Jovial
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): Hon, if you're having doubts, then DON'T DO IT. Having sex for the first time is a big deal, especially at your age. There are lots of things to consider like the possibility of pregnancy, diseases, not to mention emotional concerns like the body image issues you mentioned. It's not unusual for young women to be self-conscious about their body, but if you're not comfortable with him seeing you naked, then you're not ready to have sex. If he's a decent guy then he won't care that your body isn't perfect (nobody's is) and his certainly won't be, either. I'm not trying to scare you, but there are lots of things you need to think about. If you're totally comfortable with him and you know he respects you then go for it, but if you're even the tiniest bit unsure, then just tell him you're not ready yet. And if he's a good guy, he'll understand. If he doesn't understand and does not respect your decision, then you're probgably better off without him. Whatever you decide, please think about this, and bear in mind that in most countries, the legal age for sex is 16. but don't be pushed into it if you're not ready. Be honest with him, whatever you decide.
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reader, serenityjohnson +, writes (6 June 2007):
Well i am 16 years old, and i completely understand what you are going through. My boyfriend and i have been dating for over and year and has had sex before, but each time i'm still nervous, it is okay to be self-consicous about your body because that's the way i am so i understand what your going through. If you think that you are mature and old enough to handle the responsibilities of having sex then go for it, just remeber to always, i mean ALWAYS, protect yourself. And only do something if you want to, don't do it because he want to, because you never know if he wants a one night stand, so go for what your mind tells you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): Any time you have doubts about having sex....you shouldnt. You should wait until you are 100% sure. You are ONLY 15, and you have ONLY been going out for 4 mos. Thats not long enough to really know/trust someone. Sex isnt something you should rush into, just because HE wants to. If you are having all these negative feelings...you do not feel very comfortable with him at this point. Which is another reason to wait.
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