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anonymous
writes:Hey Aunts,There is a guy I've been talking to on for 5 months. We get along quite well and he plans to come to our country for a visit this summer (his is part nationality here). We like each other, just not in-love and we talk on a variety of topics.Lately he has asked for my help with a couple of things.1. He would like to send me some cash to arrange a passport renewal for him.2. He gave me his sister's number to call her and relay a lengthy message.I am by nature loving and giving but I am skeptical: He says that his moms dead, dad's a dead beat, best friend dead and all he has left is his sister who is "not in her right mind"? Like what does that even mean?To top it off, he said that he wants me to call her asap and I must be weary as she is brash, rebellious and loud and I would see for myself.So my question is : Should I even help him out in these 2 departments and should I even consider dating him , knowing his sister is a rebel and trouble maker??All advice appreciated! Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks All.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (21 March 2016):
 I took a wild guess at his part nationality and chose “Turkey” as the country in which he’d be applying for a passport renewal. News flash. It’s done ONLINE.
https://www.gov.uk/overseas-passports/y/turkey/renewing_new/adult
Direct him to this site: https://www.gov.uk/overseas-passports and he can figure it out himself.
And then distance yourself from him. The guy is a con artist.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 March 2016):
If he needs your bank details to “send cash” then he’s a scammer.
Sorry, you’re being played.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 March 2016):
 OP, sorry I think most of us misunderstood that part of your post..
#1 "He would like to send me some cash to arrange a passport renewal for him."
There is NO need for him to send you money to do this. HE can RENEW a BRITISH passport from anywhere. Yes, it might mean he needs to travel to nearest British Embassy - but a passport is a PERSONAL identification, you would have no idea of it was stolen (for instance) and you as a "friend" can not go renew it. He can call the nearest embassy and find out how to renew it from his end.
Don't get caught up in something that seems shady.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 March 2016):
 I would not lend him a penny. I would not make phone calls for him.
The fact that his "sister" is ANYTHING does not matter.
Do not date him.
do not give him any money
do not give him access to any of your secure information.
He sounds like a practiced con artist.
Let it go.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (21 March 2016):
 You've been given the right advice and I second whatever everyone's told you. This whole thing reeks of a scam. Just walk away, don't do any of the things that he's asked you to do and just completely block him from your life. He can get his passport renewed from whichever country here is in and as for the sister, it doesn't make any sense. Why should you call her to convey his message? Why can't he do it in today's day and age when communication is so simple?
Don't, don't, don't.
This is just the beginning... Things could get really complicated with this guy and you could get into a lot of trouble. Who knows what his intentions are? Please stay safe and just block him and walk away
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 March 2016):
I agree.. I see RED FLAGS here too.
If he can communicate with you... online or whatnot - HE can communicate with his sister.
YOU have never met in person, you have no idea who he REALLY is or what his motives are. Not to call doom and gloom but you could get involved in things you really don't WANT to be involved in.
IT IS NOT your job to convey messages from one stranger to another.
THERE is a reason alarm bells are going off in your head. LISTEN to them.
WHY should YOU pay for him the renew his passport? No, just no. If he can't afford that, then what would you think happened if he came to see you? He would expect you to foot the bill - I means bills.. too.
I'd block this one and never look back.
He might be telling his sad sob story to several women trying to get money out of them.
So LISTEN to that gut-instinct of yours and just remove and block him from everything. He isn't a friend. He is a user looking for people to USE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys. @Anon and @Auntie Bim Bim - he is the one sending the money
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (21 March 2016):
 Run away, don't walk, don't look back, but run away, very fast!
If he wants to communicate with his sister, there are many. many ways he could do that, send registered mail, make a phone call, email, text .... pay for an ad on TV.
I would not be contacting a friend's weird sibling after 10 years, let alone only 5 months. His request you contact her has me confused, is it to confirm his bona fide's, and whose to say it is really a sister and not somebody part of his scam .... because
The passport request is a well known scam, as Ciar has already pointed out, if he holds a British passport he can renew it where ever he is, its as easy as logging onto a computer, and to ask you, a FRIEND, to pay for that renewal after a friendship of a mere 5 months, raises a lot of red flags.
Deny him both requests, tell him no on both counts, and continue to tell him no, if he has a sad tale of woe to relate then direct him to the British Consulate in whichever country he is in.
Don't fall for his BS!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2016): DON'T send any money! Have you met this man before? This appears to be a scam that is common in online dating and dating sites have warnings against sending people money.
Be careful, your gut is pointing you in the right direction. Anyone would and should be skeptical in such a case.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (21 March 2016):
 RED FLAG
He can apply for a British passport, or a renewal from wherever he is. If I'd been talking to some guy for 5 months I would most definitely not entrust him with such a sensitive task.
It was totally inappropriate of him to ask and I think I'd just steer clear of him. No announcements, just ghost him.
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