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writes:Okay, little problem.I just turned 16 two weeks ago, and I’ve been with my FIRST BOYFRIEND (ever, I mean I’ve never had a boyfriend before) for 9 months, and he’s asking me to move in with him and marry him and start a family. Obviously he means have a child when I’m a little older but since he’s 27 he’s hurrying me a little. He’s my first love and I’m scared he’ll be my last, I’m thinking of guys a lot more since he proposed and it’s killing me. I love him more than anything and I see no reason we shouldn’t be together but I’m just scared I’ll do something because he’s my first everything. ?Am I just being selfish?* Oh, for anyone who says I can’t move in with him because I’m only sixteen, I’m from Scotland and the age is 16. (And I don’t mean this in a know it all way ha.)
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reader, Lilly Rose +, writes (10 July 2009):
 I think the best thing to do is not rush things...9 months is sooo quick to be moving in with someone....you should still be enjoying your independence at 16....maybe wait longer before you move in with him as once you move in together it gets very serious...seeing that person everyday...you might make that massive move and realise he is not the one....if he loves you then he will not rush you and you can tell him your not ready to get so serious so quickly surely at 27 he should be able to understand this as your only 16 got so much life to live and have fun with...weres hes prob done his bit and is ready to settle down....you just need to remind him you are only just 16!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Oh dear, this man sounds very controlling. He is calling the shots in your relationship and it sounds like he wants everything his way.At 16 you have still to experience life so please dont give up your independence to him. You should be out there dating guys, studying and enjoying your youth. If you settle down now with children you will find that life will pass you by. All your friends will be out having fun and you will be stuck at home with babies and a controlling husband.Please dont move in with him, I presume you are living at home still, well stay there and rather continue dating him and dont let him pressurise you into doing anything you are not sure about.
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reader, cherry cherry boom boom  +, writes (10 July 2009):
Obveously he is taking advantage of your age by going out with some one that has never had a bf and if you want to stay with him thats fine but all you can do is speak up to him and tell him your not ready. This ya girl, peace.
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