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writes:Hi everyone!I finally got a boyfriend and am SO HAPPY!I have a question however. He is slowly coming out to his friends. I mean VERY SLOWLY. He is not out to his parents yet and his parents don't even know that I'm gay.I am not at all worried or offended by him going at the rate he is at telling people. However he did ask me to push him and help him to tell more people.SO, on that note, how to I push him?Thanks everyone! Reply to this Question
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (14 January 2011):
 As he has already spoken to SOME of his friends... I'm sure he told them... 'Please don't tell anyone else'. You COULD tell him to go back and talk to those he's already told... and have them 'leak' the word out to others... slowly... but only when they check with him.In other words let's say he knows A, B, C, D, E, F and G.He's already told A, B and G. He now tells A, that s/he can tell C that he's gay... but... he tells A not to put any restrictions on C telling any one else. A, then tells C who then tells D, E and F. Now... everyone knows... or if he wants to keep control... he tells A... you can tell C, but tell them to keep it to themselves. So A tells C and (hopefully) C doesn't say anything to D, E or F. It really depends on the dynamics/trustworthiness of his other friends. The alternate way is for he himself to tell C and to request they keep it under wraps.You then just have to keep asking him... Who Knows now cause _I_ don't wanna 'out' you to someone who doesn't. That sort of thing.I hope all that makes sense.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (14 January 2011):
 I wonder if his parents Do know that he's gay and not said anything, waiting for him. But anyway, you could just let everyone know that you are gay, and the rest will follow, while he is at your side. Just ask him not to deny it if anyone asks the question, and neither should you.
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