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writes:i need some advice,i've got this guy i really like him and we are going ot meet soon but he says i ain't got a chance unless i cut my hair i really like my long hair and dont wanna cut it but i dont wanna miss out on being with him do u think its worth the sacrifice or not (by the wats it taken me months to get my hair to the length ive always wanted)xx plz help xx Reply to this Question
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (11 April 2008):
 omg i can't believe he said that, if you give in to him now he will think that he can just walk all over you. Please don't cut your hair, if you want it keep it, just tell him if you don't want me the way i am than don't bother. Walk away from him, if he truely wants you he will come after you, if not than you have saved yourself the pain of thinking it really wasn't worth cutting my hair for a loser like him. Yes its going to hurt as you like him but no one should tell you what to do he really isn't worth it, just think it starts with the hair, than the colthes than who you can hung out with, than oh you can pay. it will get worse hunny it really ant worth it. xxxxx
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 I got long hair and my gf likes it, if she wanted me to cut it, I would have no real problem with it but it would depend on the way it is asked.
If she demanded it, the answer would be no, if she asked, why not. After all hair grows back.
We all make little adjustments to please our partners, it is part of being together.
But he is demanding it, his way or no way. Ooops, that just raised my hackles, give in on this and you will be giving in time and time again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Don't cut it - you will torture yourself looking at everyone (male and female) with long hair the minute yours is gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Honey, he should love you for who you are and think you're beautiful no matter whether your hair is long or short. Don't sacrifice your lovely long hair for a guy that doesn't seem to even respect you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): I just realized that you are a man, well..that being the case..he probably likes men with short hair. It makes more sense now that I see you're a male. I was wondering why a guy would want a girl to cut her hair short!
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reader, joana20  +, writes (10 April 2008):
If you like your hair the way it is right now, don't cut it just because some guy wants you to!!! He is not going to like you more or less just because of your hair...That's futile! If he says you that, maybe he is not the right guy for you!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (10 April 2008):
 I with all the Aunts on this one you have your hair the way you see fit. Do not give into this jerk's demand, how dare he give you an ultimatum. Next time you see him tell him he has no chance with you until he gets some MANNERS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): This does not even make sense. Why does he want you to cut your hair so badly? When I was 18, I was dating a guy that wanted me to cut my hair really short (about 3" long) and I did it only to find out later that the guy had a crush on some girl that worked at a casino, and she had hair like that. The next thing he wanted was for me to bleach my hair blonde. Guess what, that girl had bleach blonde hair. Me being 5'10" and naturally dark haired, I really looked stupid and I hated my short hair. Do not cut your hair. If this guy is insistant that you do, there must be some shallow reason behind it, and you'll just end up feeling stupid for doing it. And hair takes a long time to grow back! Tell him to get lost. Most men love long hair, what is his issue?
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 i cant believe that some guy thinks he has the right to tell someone they have no chance until they cut their hair?? this is disgusting to be honest. how dare he demand that of you? stick to your guns and be who YOU are - not something else just to please someone else. hun if this guy is asking you to do this now before even meeting you - then wats it going to be like a few months down the line? tell this guy that while you do like him, you think that his demand is ridiculous and if he cant like you with long hair, then he can find someone else to do his bidding. i hope this helps hun, email me if you want good luck xxx
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 This is a completely ridiculous demand and you would be stupid to go along with it. Do NOT cut your hair to satisfy a guy you dont even know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): I agree with Waterloo Sunset, dont cut your hair. Have you two been friends long? what do you know about it. Dont act desperate around him, i am 36 but i have had friends who had cut their hair for a bloke and they have split up after a few week and the hair takes ages to grow. Not sure of the growing rate. Dont cut your hair until you are certain that you want to do it. Keep it long, love guys with long cool hair.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Hi lboy! Why not meet up with him first? It sounds very pushy of him to make a demand like that, I don't like the idea that he's already setting conditions on you.
Have you two met in person? I'd hold off on shearing off your hair until you get to know him a bit better.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): If someone really likes or loves someone then they dont change a thing, they like you for the person that you are, not the way that they want you to be. DONT CUT YOUR CUT! That is an order from Waterloo Sunset and must be obeyed!!!!!!!! Or i will be annoyed. No one has the right to tell us what to do. If you dont want to cut your hair then dont. If he wants you to and that is the only reason that he will be with you then tough, he isnt worth bothering with and you are worth so much better. Have some backbone and stand up to this person and let them know that this is your identity and you are not changing it. Be strong.
take care
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