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writes:So my boyfriend keeps telling me about a fantasy he has of having a threesome. It'd be something like he would have sex with me and I fool around with the other dude at the same time. But that just seems so odd to me, I wonder why he wants to bring an outsider in to OUR relationship? Even if it is just for sex, but I want him all to myself, so even I consider a threesome absolutely NO other chick. And I asked him "do you really want me to have sex with someone else?", and he said no cuz its just a fantasy. But IDK. He keeps bringing it up, not nagging or begging or forcing, but mentioning it. Thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone for your help. Especially anonymous male reader for your insight from the opposite gender. I will tell him that I want to keep it his fantasy and that's all
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): Cuckold fantasies are more common than you think. A lot of men are turned on by watching their partner have sex with another man. I don't know what the root cause is for this fantasy, but it could be that it evokes this innate drive to want to compete with another man's sperm or something.
I have been involved with two different couples in the past who wanted me to have sex with the wives; this went on for several years and it was very exciting. But as you would expect, I ended up having sex with one of the wives behind the husband's back for quite some time, and that's why I advise couples to refrain from fulfilling these fantasies. You don't want to cross those boundaries.
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reader, landomando +, writes (18 February 2012):
why would he want another GUY to star in his show???? Are u sure he doesnt want a GIRL?? I feel like guys fantasies are three somes with two girls not two dudes.. But whatever... Just say no. If u dont want too.... And i also herd from people/ also on these sights that doing that in a relationship may cause problems. Jealousy, insecurity exc stuff like that.
Good luck
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reader, mb129 +, writes (18 February 2012):
Agree with the other posters so far. OK so that's his fantasy but it's not your job to indulge his every fantasy. You need to make it clear that this will never happen. It's not like this is a harmless little fetish here like begging you to dress up as a cheerleader ... we're talking about another person.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 February 2012):
 "Babe, I'm so happy you feel comfortable enough with me to share your fantasy about a threesome. Just so you know, from now until forever, I am NOT interested in ever making this happen in real life. I'm happy to go along with the fantasy and I enjoy making you happy, I just want to be really really clear about this point, 'kay? And maybe we can focus on different fantasies for a while? I'm getting a bit concerned that because you keep bringing it up that you think it's going to happen. Love ya!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2012): He is a disturbed young man. Sex is designed for the intamcy of two people alone, anything else and it becomes corrupt. The issue is the media like to make money out of sex and often portray the corrupt side. You really need to be strong and stick with your personal convictions on this. If you are asking and saying isn't two enough then I suspect you know what they are. Do not by any means feel forced to betray your convictions with the hope of keeping a relationship. If your boyfriend is mature enough to love you then he will certainly not force this issue and betray your trust by making you sleep with another guy.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 If he doesn't want you to have sex with anyone else and it is only a fantasy of his then there's your answer. If you find it bothersome just tell him that you aren't turned on by it, so you'd prefer it if he kept that particular fantasy to himself.
The question of why some people find certain things a turn on will forever go unanswered. We don't know why some people like certain things and others don't. Why do some people like fish and not chicken?
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