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writes:So I pretty much know what I should do, but I wanted a second opinion...There's this guy I started to hang out with outside of work (we're co-workers sort of). He has a temporary job working in the district I permanently work in. We started hanging out in January and have become great friends since then. Last Wednesday he invited me to go to Atlantic City with him and we shared a room. I thought it was weird since we just hung out a few times since January. Nothing happened, but I had such a great time and I love spending time with him so I started to develop feelings. He made it known that he wants a relationship, but he also mentioned that he wouldn't date a woman with a child because he feels like he's too immature (we're both 23), and I have a four year old. At work we're very casual, we keep it strictly business, but come June we will no longer be co-workers. My question is, do I stay away from him and continue acting as co-workers? Do I stay friends with him even though I want more? My gut tells me I should just pretend that I didn't catch feelings and say goodbye in June.Thanks for any advice you can give me!
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (12 April 2013):
 If he is clingy and needy, that may explain why he doesn't want to be with someone who has kids...because maybe HE wants to be the kid!! (some people never grow up...fact)and have all the attention to boot!!
You, my darling, are young with your whole life ahead of you, figure out what you want and need in a man and then go out and find it. The world is your oyster, so no reason to waste time with the wrong person.
Someone else will be just as nice and fun, but they won't mind you having a child already!! They are out there...so don't lose hope xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm glad all four of you agree. My gut was telling me to back off a long time ago, but I haven't been with someone nice and fun to be around in awhile. He's since become very needy and clingy, but I keep him at a distance without being mean about it.
Thanks again!
-Victoria
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 April 2013):
 This is a case of LISTEN to his words...
if you want more being around him will suck for you.
I think that if he's leaving in June, that saying good bye is the best plan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2013): Follow your gut. At least he is being honest about not wanting to date a woman with a child, find someone who will.
He isn't the one.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (8 April 2013):
You have grown feeling for him so friendship is going to be painful. The guy has made it clear what he does not want so nothing will change that.
For your own sanity, tell him you don't want to hang out with him anymore, and if he asks why, tell him the truth...because that's as honest as you can be.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 April 2013):
 Take him at his word, he's too immature to deal with your having a small child. Go with your gut and say good bye in June.
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