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writes: well here i am back again to let you know what happend after i expsoed my husband to his new girlfriend .he was here with me yesterday talking to me about his new house and telling me he was moveing into it maybe today and telling what she was saying about our three way chat over the phone.and all the feelings she was having.and how upset she was about it he said she was thinking it through but wile he was here she was texting him and said she still wanted to live with him.now the to of them are going togther.i am gutted he said how sorry he is for hurting me and causing all this pain.i told him i was feeling really let down by him and the choice he was making that i cant belive he would put her over a loving wife and his kids. that how could the love of one outway the love of five.he said he feels he has to do this to find out if it works.i told him i dont think it will becouse theres no foundation to it he dont know any of her family and she dont no any of his and he said he dont really know her but kneeds to see.and wants to take that chance. he also told me thay still never had sex that he sleped in same bed and felt her boobs and kissed then went to bathroom and finished himself off.she is still a vergin.she started texing him again as she was he was having sex with me if thats real love would he have done that to her.i love him so much i could not stop myself.i guess im still wondreing will it last with them.is there a chance he still might come back .i no you might say who in there right mind would want to but i doi just cant stop crying day and night.what im i going to do now im so unhappy alone and letdown. i would do anything to get him back he said if not her it would be me and he really means that .i was going to tell her about our sex yesterday in the hope it would make her dump him.but thats wrong i know that.please take the time to talk to me.and thanks for the help so far.but if she dumped him i would have a chance to find that out
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reader, Tine  +, writes (29 November 2006):
 hunny of course you want him back, he is in fact your husband, so obviously you loved him enough to have his ids and to marry him however the love he has for you is no comparison to what you have for him. He is just being a selfish prick, if he wants to take this chance and see how things work out with this girl who infact he does not even really know then i'd let him. This just shows you how selfish he is, that he will just up and leave you and your kids to be with someone whom he has known for five minutes.
Chances are that he may move in with this girl and stay with her for a while but you will always have something that she cannot give him yet - all his children. If he was any sort of a man he would put his children before himself.
So hunny i suggest you let him realise just infact what he has done. Do not sit and cry - although it may be hard but think of your children and how it could affect them later in life, to always have the memories of their mother crying 24/7 over something that their father did. In the end it will be HIM they blame, not you.
Once he sees that you are getting on with family life without him and with him seign you cope on your own (although you may have to put on a front while he's there) then he will realise that he has made a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): Please think about this poor girl... she must be in so much pain...this man has put her through this out of his own choice...but you dont have to...you dont have to have sex wiv him...think about that girl...how youd feel if you were her. if its not meant to be with them then it wont be. maybe you should wait till this man grows up and actually knows what he wants...
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (29 November 2006):
 totally agree with shandy
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2006): Why are you letting this man ground you down to this level? Please get a grip. You have children to think about, where are they when all of this is going on? seeing you so upset and down must be terrible for them.
He is never going to be any good if he comes back to you. His heart and mind may always be elsewhere so you will have not won him back. You will be in charge of his shell but the centre will be gone.
Stop sleeping with him for a start. Let him go and move on. Stop letting him bounce back through that front door. Get some self respect, what kind of a role model are you showing the children. It's bad enough their dad being the way he is, just stop and think what you are doing.
Boot him out of your life for once and for all. Stop listening to him talking about his gf, tell him to buggar off.
Get on track girl and move on.
Take care
xx
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