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writes:I'm 15 and talking to this guy I've had a crush on for this whole year. He used to like me but doesn't anymore apparently. I was out with friends the other night and when they were picking me up at my house the guy I like said I looked hot asf, my best friend told me this fyi. I can't stop liking him. Whenever he asked me one day if I liked him I said I had mixed feelings at the time. He knows I like him and whenever I give obvious hints in texts he never says anything about it. Although we've started talking "dirty" or whatever... we just spent like 4 hours asking each other what we'd do to each other if we were there. It was his idea so I don't know if likes me or not. Plus he apparently stopped liking this one girl a grade lower than us. He told her he didn't like me and she screen shot it and sent it to me. The is waa about two mounths ago though .Does he like me? He used to apparently?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 June 2017):
 If he liked you then he wouldn't be talking dirty to you. The reason he is doing that is because he knows you like him so he is seeing how far he can push you sexually. Don't let him treat you like this.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 June 2017):
 No, he does not.
He likes the convenient opportunity for fun and games that you naively provide him by accepting to " talk dirty and whatever " to him. That, he likes, I bet.
OP, you are young and inexperienced, so I am not scolding you, but I am inviting you to use logic. Two plus rwo always make four at any age :
he knows for sure that you like him, and you gave him plenty of obvious hints, which he does not take, which he ignores.
But , if there 's dirty talks on offer and wanking games to play, then he is all yours.
So, what he may possibly want from you ?... Correct : he is using you.
Saying that you are hot as fuck ( which by the way is not a very flattering comment in its basic uncouthness ) does not mean that he has any interest in you as a person or as a possible date or gf. It is simply the aknowledgement that the way you dressed / looked that day could give him a hard on. ( Which, again, it's not particularly flattering insofar , at his age, it must be true of 75 % of the female population ).
In short, he is using you. You'd be smart if you did not let him do that.
Are you confused because he used to like you ? ( Then again, you don't know WHAR he loked you for.... Maybe for scratching an itch just like now ).... Well, he changed his mind; it happens often at your age: Didn't you change your mind too , since before you had misex feelings but now you like him ?
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (5 June 2017):
 He gets a high on being able to have girls running after him , he is a danger to you as he shows others what should be private. He is the type that posts photos or other things of their gf on the net.The type stuff you don't want everyone to see. Keep away from him you can get much better , the best guys are often the shy ones, who think you are the only girl in the world ,
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2017): He played a game to trick you into admitting how much you like him. He doesn't really care one way or the other. He just likes knowing how many girls like him for the sake of his own ego.
You shouldn't let boys trick you into saying dirty things in messages; because they will show everything to their friends. Boys are pretty stupid in your age-group. Girls are usually smarter. Sometimes their not!
You're not even a couple, and shouldn't have gone so far. He might have been testing you to see just how full of yourself you are. He can like how you look; but not like the type of person you are.
There are things you don't say or do until you know for sure if the person you like, likes you back just as much. Trying to manipulate boys into liking you by being sexy only makes them want sex, and they don't have to like you for that. They will be disrespectful to you, and might still go for the other girl. You don't give boys naughty pics of yourself no matter what. Then it is theirs to do whatever they please with it. I know you didn't do it this time, but that might be his next trick.
He's playing you along. If you get mad, he'll only play it all off. So ignore him, direct your attention somewhere else or just pretend you've never heard of him. Until he fades out of your memory. At your age, that's very easy. Even if he teases you, be nonchalant and make him look foolish. Let his little plan backfire on him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 June 2017):
 He is using you. He KNOWS you like him and he knows you will give him attention and talk dirty to him even if he doesn't really want/like you.
I mean seriously... Why talk dirty to a guy who doesn't make an effort to either GET to know you (talking dirty and texting is not "getting to know someone") or even go on a DATE with you?
I think he is using you as "entertainment" while he sees who else is out there. You are the "fall back" girl. The one he will talk to 9dirty or not) when he is horny, bored or doesn't have another girl to do that with.
He is IGNORING your "hints" that you like him because THAT part is irrelevant to him - whether HE likes you back or not HE is getting what HE wants from you.
You can find a person HOT AF and NOT like them. I have known many VERY attractive guy I wouldn't have touched with a 50-foot pole. so calling YOU hot is not an indication of him LIKING you. (or disliking you). I just don't think he is that into you.
Sorry.
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