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writes:Ok, so i really really like this guy.We've known each other for around 6-7 years from school but we only started talking 2 months ago.We're both 14 and we're already SO close its unbelievable, i started developing feelings for him in the first week.At first i thought he liked me back, but now ive noticed he really likes this girl out of school.He told me im like a sister to him and hes like my brother. i dont mind that because its not like blood relation. His feelings may change.But there are signs that make me think. Many of my friends keep on asking me if me and him are going out. Even my best friend thinks we would make a good couple, but he only sees me as a sister.Everyday my feelings for him develop, i dont know what to do, because if i ask him out out friendship wont be the same, he'll always know that i like him as more than a friend and he will keep more distant with me.Help x
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reader, forgonepath  +, writes (13 May 2007):
Ultimately it's your decision: do you believe you'll be able to stay "just friends" while also having such strong feelings for him deep inside? I really liked my best friend and for 3 years I didn't say anything to her because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. But I was always so miserable whenever she was going out with someone else or whenever I was with her and I wanted to kiss her or hold her and couldn't. So after three years of misery I just couldn't take it anymore and told her. We're still good friends, we talked things through and she told me she didn't feel the same way. It hurt but at least now things are in the open. So if you're not too miserable staying "just friends," then I guess hold off until the right time. But if you are, then I suggest talk to him about it. There's no point in making yourself suffer. Good Luck!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (13 May 2007):
 Yeah, normally I would advise people to tell the other person how they feel and take a risk to be happy but at fourteen I'm not sure this guy is mature enough not to let it affect your friendship. Also, he seems to have made it pretty clear that he likes you platonically and nothing more. This might change in time but if you stay friends with him you're keeping him close and that might happen sooner. Try not to worry about other girls he sees too much. I'm a great believer in fate and I think that if you're meant to be together it'll happen sooner or later, regardless of how many girls come and go in the intervening period.
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