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writes: Hey, I'm a 17 year old guy looking for a little advice. I think ive fallen for my best friend. The problem is she is currently involved with another guy in town. We both have showed great intrest in each other. More then friends usually do. On numerous occasions we have almost kissed but we both realized she had a bf and stopped. She calls me every night and spends more time with me then her boyfriend. The reason for this however is that he treats her like trash. He constantly lies to avoid her, hes always calling her names and they can't spend a night together without her crying. i tell her she deserves better, but i cant bring myself to tell her how i do feel. Ive been hurt in past relationships i dont want it to happen again
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reader, vixsfix +, writes (23 March 2006):
 Hey glad it helped, i just got off the phone from my mate that i had the trouble with? Hows it been goin since with your friend does it make any sense yet? I used to have days when i was like "i love my relationship with him and it could never be anything more' and then they're be days when i'd catch his eye across the room and smile at him and just think of how much he meant to me and that i wanted to be with him - but obviously i couldn't! There's no overnight thing for this it's just a really long and sometimes painful process. Is there anything that you wanna ask me about?
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reader, sakic +, writes (19 March 2006):
sakic is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice vixsfix + , i wol like to talk to you a little more on the subject, it seems like u have experience involving this and at this moment. im open for all suggestions
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reader, vixsfix +, writes (19 March 2006):
I feel for you i really do. I'm 18 and for the 5 years i went through high school with a lad who became my best friend. I never truely cleared up exactly how i felt for him. We were in exactly the same situation. Everyone in yr7 pinnd us to be a couple by the time that we left and it never happened though it nearly did on a few occassions, i can't tell you yes you are in love with her or no but you have a special friendship with her that will always mean more to you than other frienships. Boys girl friendships are the best. I have to best boy mates that i value more than my best girl mates though i would never tell either that.
Take a look at how you think you would function as a couple would you be able to have a physical relationship with her, what would change and what if it goes wrong. If you're in any doubt then put it on hold until your certain.
Don't throw away one of the best things that you have in your life!
Please respond to this as i would like to talk to you some more about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2006): My advice to you would be to back off completely and let her resolve the bf issue otherwise you will get hurt. She's currently using you for your sympathy and attention. Don't allow her to do that. Talk to her and tell her how you feel. Then tell her you need to let her handle the situation herself. Hopefully, she'll pick you instead of the jerk, but don't get your hopes up. For some reason we woman go for the jerks until we wake up and smell the coffee as they say.
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