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writes:I've been going out with this guy for about 3 weeks now, and I was friends with him for about a month before that. Anyway, like it or not, a standard protocol of mine when I am with a guy is to, after a few weeks, go into my bogus myspace account (which says "I" am from Germany) and contact them, and ask if they are single, say they're hot, etc, etc. This guy fell for the bait.I commented on one of his photos and said [paraphrased]Very handsome! You are my type, haha. Write to me if you would like. Do you have a girl? Am curious. ------Later, when I saw that he logged on I logged in and wrote to him:[paraphrased]Hallo Mr. [his name]I hope you saw my photo comments for you. So what do you say?Nice time,[my fake name]-------He writes my fake account and says:Whoa ! [fake account name], thanks for the comment. Really it is nice, how is Germany? I am a single guy and you do you have a boy too?I have liked your ways anyway.-------I write:A single guy? really? You seem so handsome! Haha. :)Well, I do not have a boyfriend and I appreciate your comments. Germany is nice. Much different than the US where I used to live. How are things in [your town]?-------He writes:Yah, am really single. and you look so beautiful.I will comment on your photos where i can.[His town] is cool. I play soccer.I am happy finding you.-------And that is when I told him that he was busted and explained everything.So, with that said, on a scale of 1-10 how concerned should I be? The fake profile was from Germany, and we're from the US. But anyway, should I automatically give him the boot after this, or not freak out too much over it?Thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): Actually, *he* should be more concerned than you. If you were my gf and pulled this shit on me, I'd dump you in a heartbeat. Sorry sweetheart, but if you think he must be honest to some random girl online, but not with you, you are mistaken. Your action is slightly psycho, you should really be trusting your partner instead of spying on him. I can say whatever the hell I want to random chicks on the internet, but that doesn't mean anything at all. There is a reason he's with you now.So stop your spying, drop your creepy "standard protocol" and apologize to him. If you think *you* deserve an apology, go ahead and dump him. He'll be grateful.
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reader, shna  +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Leave him alone man get rid of him. Still I dont' like how sneaky you were about testing him. That's not a nice thing to do.
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reader, shaashiie +, writes (26 January 2009):
 Myspace causes so many problems. A lot of people consider it to be the new "booty call" because many people use it just for that, to flirt and get a quick ego boost when they have a new picture comment. My boyfriend deleted his myspace (his decision, I did not press him to do so) when we got serious and I remade mine and only add friends and family members. In fact, I only really use my myspace to keep in contact with my cousin who lives across the country from me. Why would someone need to add myspace friends of the opposite gender that they don't even know if they're in a relationship?You manipulated him, but you found out that he would have no problems flirting with another girl behind your back. Sure, "she" lives in another country, but who knows if he would have done the same if you made the profile as a fake girl in your home town? If it's only 3 weeks I would dump him and move on only because you most likely aren't very emotionally invested in the relationship yet anyway and it's better to be safe now than sorry in a few months if you find out he does the same thing with any girl who tosses him a compliment. Maybe it was nothing but an ego boost for him, but how do you think he would react to a girl flirting with him in person instead of online? You know him better than us.What excuses did he come up with when you confronted him about it? I would need to know how he reacted before I can tell you how concerned to be, but as of now it would be a 6-7 in my eyes, which is enough to warrant a breakup when the relationship is so young and you're so young. Plenty of fish in the sea.. haha, I hate that line, but it's true.
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