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writes: Lame question... but I have small breasts, and my boyfriend prefers big ones. I know this because his celebrity crushes have big breasts and because I asked him and he straight out told me. During sex I'm not self conscious about them, although when he licks them and plays with them it almost seems he does it because he knows it turns me on rather than because he really finds them a turn on. However, when we're out in public, especially at the beach or something, I can't help but - secretly - get really insecure and anxious inside because I know he's obviously gonna notice all the busty belles that are around.Rationally, I know that he's with me for other reasons and that boobs don't really matter, but I can't get over it anyway. It's always there bugging me, when we're out or even watching TV. I guess I just wish I was more of his type. I know to him it probably doesn't mean anything even though he wouldn't mind that I suddenly grew to a 34D! How do I get over it? Thanks.
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reader, goodguy11  +, writes (12 February 2010):
I wouldn't worry about it. He loves you for who you are. He was just being honest about what he likes although I wouldn't tell you that because I wouldn't want you to feel bad like you are now. Just know he chose you and not the big breasted blonde.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2010): If this guy is going out with you, then you ARE his type! Maybe he does have a preference for bigger breasts, but it doesn't mean that he would prefer you to be any different than you are now.
I prefer guys with dark hair. But I once dated a guy with fair hair, and I cared about him a lot. I never thought about him and wished he had dark hair instead, I liked him just as he was. So while we may all have preferences, it doesn't necessarily mean anything more than that.
I know it is hard though, I tend to get insecure myself! It is easy to think "I shouldn't let this bother me..." but if it does, then it does. What if you spoke to your boyfriend about this? Do you think that might help? He might be able to reassure you and put your mind at ease.
And why not try and focus more on the parts of your body you really like? So if you go to a beach, or some other place you tend to feel more insecure, you could make a big deal about that part of your body. So if it's your hair, you could put it up really nicely. Or if you like your legs, show them off! Be proud of what you do have, and know that your boyfriend is surely just as appreciative! x
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reader, Illithid +, writes (12 February 2010):
 There are a million little things we PREFER, but they don't make or break a relationship. Some women prefer a man's equipment be a certain size, some men simply prefer blondes, some women want musicians, some men always liked Asians, some women are only interested in men with bulging muscles, some men like larger breasts. But at the end of the day, how often is it the blonde, large breasted Asian woman that we fall in love with? No, we love who we love and those little preferences just cease to matter. If he loves YOU, then that means all of you, even those perky breasts of yours he plays with.
No one is EXACTLY what their partner was expecting, but you're who he loves.
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reader, cls1990  +, writes (12 February 2010):
 My boyfriend prefers small boobs & mine are huge so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I used to think about it all the time but then I realised that if it mattered so much to him, he wouldn't be with me.
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