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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my wonderful partner for near on 8 years now. As much as I love spending time with him, I don't think it is in the same way as it once was. What we have feels much more platonic than romantic to me, and not just in the 'we're comfortable with each other' sense. I have no plans to marry him and we never have sex. Last time we made love I instigated it but I had to really force myself to do it. I feel like I stay with him because he is my best friend, he takes care of me, he supports me (emotionally, not financially) and of course, he loves me. But each day we are together I feel guilty knowing that even though I don't want to lose him from my life (which I can assure you would happen if we split up), my feelings aren't the same as his are. I can't pinpoint exactly what happened, maybe I just changed. I was very very young and a much different person than I am now when we started dating . He is exactly the same person (there is almost 20 years separating us and he already knew who he was way before he met me!!!) How can I explain this to him without being too awful? Comfortable and happy as I am with the bond we have formed, I know this can't go on, it's not fair on either of us and I need to get the strength to finish it. If anyone has ever been in a similar situation and has advice for me that would be appreciated. :)
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (12 February 2010):
 Your going to get into a relationship thats all physical and everythings going to stop, your going to be so sorry you let go of the emotional thing, I say if it's even there a little bit, it's worth doing everything you can to save it! because hot guys that you get physical with tend to be a little bit on the emotionally defunct side, if you even can say that!
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