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writes:i have been in a relationship with my partner for two years and we have a 2mnth daughter, I left home and changed my life, i gave up the religion i followed and have a totally diffrent lifestyle. Lately i have been so unhappy with the choice i made i regret haveing a baby and i regret leaving the faith that i held so close to my heart. I want to leave but i dont know what to do. This guy is 15yrs older than me so i feel that the life is being sucked out of me, i feel like an old women like a housewife when i should be haveing fun like a normal 21 yr old. I want to leave him and live on my own wih our daughter but i dont know how to broach the subject or what to do. I love him but i love my religion more and i just want to be truely happy not pretending to be happy. I dont want to break his heart and i am scared of the family hateing me cause i know they will as they are not religious. Plaese help me come to a practical solution. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Just rejoin your religion, your partner will complain at first. But if you stand firm then he will come around. Athiests can be overbearing, but just emphasise that this is your choice as they have made theirs.Do not be so quick to divorce, as that will put you and your little one in a bad way.If you are feeling isolated then simply make some effort to meet with other mums in your area, that way you will have company
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): You recently gave birth. Many experience depression right after giving birth, and dont want their child (you said you wished you never had a baby) and are also miserable with their life and with their husband. Be aware that this might be what you are going through, and see a doctor to ask for help.
If you truly are miserable, the practical thing is to tell your man that you are leaving him and that you will go back to your own religion. But, you are a mother now, you will never again be that 21 year old having fun like other normal 21 year olds. Never. Just realize that. You have a child now, and you can not run around like another carefree 21 year old. That is not because of your change of religion, your 15 year older man, that is because you decided you wanted a baby. You took that choice, and it can not be undone.
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