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writes:My best guy friend broke my heart. He admits to me he likes me and ive always had feelings for him and so i was really happy. Then a couple weeks later he asks me out, it was ovr txt and i sed ok but i want you to ask me in person (it's just one of my things, wnt accept till it's in person) and then next day, right after he asks me out, after work he txts me tht he just wants to be friends, he doesnt want to lose our friend ship, ect ect...i was really mad, i txted back "You really should've thot of tht before you even told me you liked me in the first place" am i rite? But then on fb we were talkin and outta no where he says "i'm talkin to this other girl i like to". Thats wat made me cry, right there at the computer.Now I'm trying really hard to be nice, make things like they were before all the i like you thing. I just want to forget about it. But I cant trust him...I used to tell him everything, what i'm feeling, why, who i hate, my favorite things ect, now i hesitate to tell him anything. It makes me want to cry because i still love him as a friend and i dont think i can just stop talkin to him, he's a big part of my life. I will never have feelings for him again but i do love him as a friend and i miss being able to tell him everything and vent to him. What can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing with him tho is that he has done this to other girls, he'll tell them he likes them and then backs out of asking them out...it scares me and i can handle anything he thows at me (new gf, just wanting to be friends, liking me for more than a frind) but i think he's either extremely confused or just a jerk...
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reader, Odds +, writes (17 July 2010):
 Every guy goes through this experience at least once, where they become platonic friends with a girl for a long time, then decide they have a crush, then ask her out several weeks or months after that. That nearly always ends up in a lost friendship; the only difference is how it happens.
Can you come to peace with the thought of him seeing other women? Would you be able to happily meet his new girlfriends in the future? If not, that's what you need to work on. When the thought of him with other women does not make you jealous anymore, then you've done all you can. After that it's up to him to try to restore the friendship from his end.
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reader, papertowns  +, writes (17 July 2010):
I think maybe the best thing to do is talk to him about everything and hopefully the friendship can be saved. If he's a good friend he will listen and you'll be able to patch things up. You should tell him how much he hurt you and then maybe you two can move forward.
Good luck :)
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