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writes:Help pleaseI have this man i'm seeing and have been for quite a long time.What is bugging me about him is the fact that he likes to tease me because he likes the way i bite back at him.well i don't mind a joke but some of the things he says to me get me down.things like if i say to him have you missed me he will respond with "whats your name again"i find that a real put off but he often says it and doesn't seem to worry that i am offended by it.then other times he says he misses me too. because we don't get to spend a lot of time together where both in our mid 50's and i notice that sometimes he gets very close then at other times he pulls away from me and says things like we are only to be just very good friends and yet other times i think he wants more he is so confussing i feel like i should walk away and find a man that wants me and not be playing theses silly games with me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): The "What's your name?" could be funny the first time. But, if he does it repeatedly, it could just get boring and old. He could just be stupid, or he could be a jerk, if he is repeatedly making you the butt of his mean-spirited jokes.
Why is it you don't get to see this man very often? Are you in an exclusive relationship? You've been seeing this man for a very long time, and he says you're only to be very good friends? If he's joking, there's nothing funny about that comment. Sounds like a deal-breaker to me. I get the impression this guy needs to feel 'Big' by belittling you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): If u have been seeing this man for a while he should be fine with understanding your feelings, tell him that u enjoy a good joke but u don't enjoy being the butt of one
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 If he is winding you up by acting like an a**hole then you have to ask yourself if he's really the one?. Also if he doesnt consider that the two of you are in a relationship, then he is probably not that serious. Things will continue until you do something to change them. Call him on it and let him know his behaviour is annoying and that you'd like to know where you stand. If he makes a joke of it and tries to avoid giving you a straight answer then dump him and find someone else.
You do have control over what is best for you, there is no need to always let it be the mans decision to stay. If it's too much to put up with, cut him loose.
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