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writes:And please dnt tell me its in his kiss lol!im having this problem with a guy in work that i really really like we have had many converstaions about the whole situation and he totally knows how much i like him! he has told me that he is totally flattered by the fact i like him and tht he thinks im a top girl n wud luv to spend some more time with me outside of work n see how things go! but is just stuck for time at the min which i know he is because of the training he is on at work! even when we are not in work together we are constantly texting each other he sent me about 80 messages just last night and we were in work together all day! but i can't decide whether or not he is just saying these things because he doesnt want to hurt me as we do actually get on really well!! maybe his way of letting me down gently? i would be very willing to wait for him because i really really like him i get butterflies whenever his name is mentioned let alone when i see him! but i just know tht if he is just trying to let me down gently and doesnt actually mean any of the things he has said it will just cause more pain in the end at least if i know now what he was thinking we would be able to still be really good mates which id rather have than not have him in my life at all coz as i sed we do get on really well!So how do I tell if he likes me so???Thnx in advance 22 yr old female uk XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): Stuff, don't you hate that sure thing, especially when it goes wrong. Well at least the guys were half right, he found you attractive enough.
I don't understand, all the signals were there. Ah well, sorry babes, it's for the best, this man sounds like he's playing games. Don't be afraid, don't be ashamed, you've done nothing wrong. You liked this guy, he gave every indication that he liked you too, you've got the evidence, 80 texts shouldn't have been wrong. He sounds like he wants to play games. Nasty, nasty, man.. ah well we live and we learn.
You've been a strong woman, you saw something, liked it, and with his willing cooperation you made your move. Nothing wrong with that, it's the 21st century. We women gotta sometimes make our intentions clear if we want to find happiness. This man is not for you, good, you can find somebody a whole lot better. The people at work, stuff them, you saw a guy you liked, you had a few kisses and things didn't work out. It's nobody's business, but if they ask that's what happened, for all they know, it's you that pushed him away because he wasn't good enough..
Sorry, but he gave out all the right signs, what was we (and you) supposed to think anyway... Take care of you, no problem, no regrets, just move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): Hi!
Im the original poster, im afraid that hats are going to have to be eaten! although I thought that you wer all on the right track we went out last night not on our own as a group with work! we had our kiss (or numerous kisses should i say) I went home really happy but imagine my disapointment when he tells me over the computer today that he is really sorry for what happened he was drunk and he thinks he took advantage knowing that i wanted a relationship! he says he is not ready for a relationship right now which i totally understand he is in a difficult place rite now he has explained his situation and i understand! but i just feel like a total idiot now i wasnt drunk id had a drink but i was far from drunk! how do i cope at work now when im going to be the hot topic for gossipers!!
Help!!!
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (11 July 2008):
 Although we take it he has a thing for you, beware he is not an obsessive Crank!!!! Hannah x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): Similar to the male poster below, my boyfriend use to text me 50 times a day everyday for seven months. Then he started calling me like times a day. "Awww... he likes you so much," they said. Eventually he broke up with me because even with ALL of that contact, he didn't feel like he had enough control/knowledge of my daily life and it drove him crazy not knowing what I'm doing all the time.
So like the guy said below... proceed with caution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): Be careful he cold have an obsessive personality. Nice at the start of a relationship, not so nice when he becomes jealous and possesive.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): Hey, how much more must this guy do (under the present) circumstances to convince you?(lol)
You heard the UNCLES!
Hope the CONFIDENCE level is boosted now!
Good Luck; ENJOY!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Well, Diovan, I guess YOU will end up eating the poster's hat. Send us a picture :-).
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): 80 texts, now the uncles have spoken. Go and get him girl, don't delay. If they are wrong, I'll make all the uncles eat your hat, cause they said it's a sure thing.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (9 July 2008):
 So this poor guy has sent you 80 texts and still you're not sure that he likes you?
Of course he likes you. Right now you're the best thing since sliced bread as far as he's concerned. What do you need? Jam on it too? You're driving him crazy. He'll be climbing the walls in frustration. For goodness sake put him out of his misery and go out with him - like, real soon. If he can't actually get round to putting it into words then ASK HIM. "Why don't we go to the cinema Saturday night?" See? It's easy!
And if you haven't kissed him (at least) by Monday morning then we'll ALL want to know the reason why. You've got 4 days (and five nights). Got it? Now go get him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2008): 22 yr old female in uk
Thanks for these replies so far! i never chose the title the moderator did my title was how do i tell if he likes me so? hence the 1st line of the question lol!
Why would he be scared of rejection when he knows how i feel? and i dont want to push him too much by asking him out as he has said tht he has no time at the min with his training which is actually going really well hes going to be the new supervisor! omg im soooo obsessed with him maybe its all just a matter of time????
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (9 July 2008):
Twenty-two year old female in UK, this guy is absolutely into you. His, er, "frequent" messaging screams just that. The man feels stuck in his job and he just wouldn't want to lose you for some stupid training. I wonder if he'll make any good out of that training anyways, since he's in permanent conversation with you.
I'm not sure if it was you or the moderator who chose the title, but I'm sure it was well chosen. Your confidence level is low at the moment. I just haven't seen anyone giving that many proofs of his interest and a girl doubting him.
Go for him! He's a sure thing!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (9 July 2008):
 Hi there,
holy cow. 80 messages in one day!!.. and you are still thinking whether he likes you or not.. My dear you don't know very much about men do you.
If he texts you 10 times he nuts about you, 80 times? he is almost obsessed with you.
So the answer is yes! he is crazy about you. Maybe too much, I would put money on it that he is so nervous about being rejected by you that he cant summon up the courage to ask you out. We men can be blubbering idiots when we fancy a girl chronic, it can be very hard to ask them out as we are so fearful of rejection.
This is the 21st century mate, why dont you suggest something, it doesnt have to be a hot date. How about a Saturday or Sunday afternoon, a picnic or a movie, a visit to a museum or a show somewhere? Ask him, I guarantee he will be jumping over the moon at this girl he fancies asking him to hang out with her.
80 text messages.. sheesh mate, get cracking will ya!!!
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