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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. a few months back i found out that he's been dirty texting his best mates ex. who he always used to slag off to me. anyway i told him that i knew bout the texts and he owned up, was very sorry, changed his number and deleted her number. then everything was fine for a few months but then my ex text me out of the blue and one thing led to another and we ended up spending the night together. now i dont no what to do cause i really love my boyfriend but i cant get my ex out of my head.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Hi
You should know that 2 wrongs dont make a right. You have tto tell your bf but you fist have to decide who you want to be with. You have to make a choice. After you have done so then you should tell him and take it from there. We all make mistakes and we deserve a second chance. So just speak to your bf and see what you can do from there.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, SamuraiRick  +, writes (20 November 2007):
 Ive done that before. Been serious with one girl, then I suddenly hook up with an old girlfriend who came out of the blue and just wanted to fuck with no strings. yep, it can happen, and more so if your feel real comfortable with your ex, and feel you got nothing to lose as long as you can keep it a secret with your present mate. In my case it was a one time thing, it was fun and all was forgotten. No regrets. If your conscience can handle it as the fling it is, then its okay, and it shouldn't threaten anything. But if you're thinking your ex is looking better than ever, ask yourself why you split up in the first place. What changed?
Of course you can control your own destiny, and someitmes two people were meant to be together, as might be the case with you and your ex. SO ask yourself what made you split with him and if its worth going back if your going to face the same issues. Otherwise, try to keep it in perspective...maybe your ex was just better in bed and your recent romp reminded you about it, but dont let that cloud your mind.
You've invested a year in your current boyfriend, don't throw it away without good cause. You thought he cheated...you know you cheated. Now things are even. Never confess to your boyfriend what you did.
I hope my answer helps you see it both ways. Now its up to you to decide. But don't prolong your affair with your ex unless you are serious in leaning toward him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): I am seeing a bunch of self-involved young people here in this mess, that need to mature and understand how bad behaviors get you in a pile of trouble. Frankly, I think you need to solo in your life for awhile. Your bf sent dirty texts to a female, he got caught, fesses up to you and apologizes. You knew this, but you still made the decision to remain with him, irregardless. Was there any trust after this..I am thinking there wasn't, because to soothe your hurt over that, it appears you cheated on this bf, with your ex. Now you are saying, you love your bf, but can't get the ex out of your head. Sheesh! . This is not a positive, mature direction for your life, is it? I say, tell your bf what happened and just end your relationship, because for some unthinking reason, you set in motion events that are taking you there. You can’t act as if you had no wish to end this relationship when you undertook these relationship ending actions by cheating.. And your bf, he did the same thing to you when he sent dirty text messages to some other female. You call this love? I don't think so. .
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): If i was you i would wipe the slate clean. Get rid of your ex's number and forget about him. Put him out of your head and dont think about him anymore. If you love your bf you wouldnt of slept with the ex. But, dont tell him, just let it be forgot and move on. Put 100% into your relationship with your bf and stop this nonsense now.
take care
xx
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (19 November 2007):
 You are the one in the wrong here and i don't see why you even mentioned your boyfriend dirty texting another girl. The texting went on at the beginning of the relationship did it not? There's a lot more to having sex with someone than texting someone. Your boyfriend did the right thing and got rid of her number. He did good but you have completely crossed the line. You should tell your boyfriend what you've done and hope that it is early enough in the relationship for him to forgive you. If he doesn't then I suggest you go your separate ways as most men find it very difficult to forgive their girlfriends cheating.
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reader, Lordtone +, writes (19 November 2007):
 I know its a bit of a traditional angle but really, if you did love your boyfriend, you wouldn't have slept with your ex. It sounds like you really, really care about your current boyfriend or you wouldn't have bothered writing your question. It might just be time for you to go seperate ways. It's a hard thing to do but always best to deal with sooner rather than later. With regards to your ex, a lot of people say that ex's are ex's for a reason, so have some fun with your ex if you think its right but don't consider a relationship again unless of course either you or him have changed your ways!
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