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51-59,
*onfused65
writes:i am at my wits end i have been with my husband for 19 years .He has always been a bit of a flirt but has taken to more than that with two people who were meant to be my friends. 6 months ago i found out he had been spending time with a friend of mine and had been going on singles chat sites and he was telling them he loved them and wanted to be with them , when i found out he told me it was all a joke he was just flirting. I now don't trust a word he says. he drives trucks interstate and i have no idea if he is seeing some else while on the road . He tells me hes not because the thought of me leaving him has changed him . Please help i now don't know what to do i don't trust any female friends or him
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x  +, writes (5 April 2008):
 Being married to a man you do not trust is a mistake. You could be out there finding someone who will not have the indecency to even think about flirting with other people and possibly cheating on you. It does sound a little like he's cheating, I'll admit. Being in a relationship can destroy you mentally and emotionally, which can lead to breakdowns a lot.
Do you really want to be in a relationship where you have to come onto an agony aunts website to ask whether your husband is cheating or not? I understand that you want to be with him, since he's your husband of nineteen years and you love him, but you could be finding someone else. Someone worth your time and loyalty.
Wishing you the best.
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reader, Cindy303  +, writes (5 April 2008):
 The heartache and pain that you feel when you find out such a secret can be the end of everything as you ever knew it in your marriage. The fact your husband is going on singles sites and chats shows he has interest in other women, and not just one, but several. You cant trust him and you have doubts in the future of your marriage and life together or you not be here asking for advice. After this many years in marriage you owe it to yourself and you owe it to each other to sit down and see if you can figure out what may have caused this straying. You should be able to talk face to face and see if you cant get some answers from him. The longer you wait, the worse it will get. Good Luck.
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