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writes:My boyfriend and I are very much in love. We're very attracted to each other. When we're together, we're very happy and extremely amorous. When we say goodbye, we both cry.When he's with me, his heart beats faster, his eyes dilate and he can't stop smiling at me.He has told me that everything about me points to me being perfect for him, and vice versa.But, he doesn't feel any tangible feelings, like a spark, or butterflies, or warmth (and he very much wants to - he has told me the last thing he wants to do is break up with me, and he would only do so if I wanted the relationship to end - which I don't.). He says that he just feels "content".I actually thought it might be down to his antidepressants. He started them when he was 20, two years into his relationship with another woman (with whom he did feel a spark at the time). He's been on them 7 years now, and I reckon they're numbing his highs. It's not just me - very little seems to motivate him nowadays, so I question what the drugs are actually doing. His social worker however, thinks that this is highly unusual not to experience the highs as a result of the antidepressants, but he's coming off them to see what happens.What's your take on this? Do you think there could be some truth behind what I think, or is the social worker right?Any answers greatly appreciated. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): it sounds like it is the drugs that are effecting his mood. i have recently been studying the effect they have and maybe (if your relationship is strong enough) he should come off them. be aware though there will be a stage whereby he will start experiencing both extreme highs and lows and must stay strong for him.
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reader, loveguru23  +, writes (4 June 2008):
I'm not a doctor or psychologist...but I can say that anti-depressants does play a huge role on your mood and how you feel about things. He says that he's "content", but I think from what you've described in the beginning of your passage, that you're very much in love. I think his feelings are genuine and you should hang on to him.
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