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writes:My boyfriend still talks to his ex-girlfriend and they dated for 4 months. Last night, he was talking to her and after about 20 minutes he texted me back "sorry me and her(his ex-girlfriend) were talking and i forgot about you." I asked him, "what was so interesting that you forgot about your girlfriend(that's me)" all he said was "stuff." Then today i asked her(his ex) about it and she said, "umm... its just between me and him" and i don't like or trust her. What should i do and should i be worried about this? please help.
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reader, peacegirl2345 +, writes (16 August 2011):
peacegirl2345 is verified as being by the original poster of the question How long are you together?
We've been together for 3 months and 1 week.
How long ago did they break up and why did they?
Okai, they broke up in January because she was moving away and he didn't want a long distance relationship.
Who dumped who etc?
He broke up with her.
Did he actually write 'I forgot about you'??
Yes, he did really write that.
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reader, peacegirl2345 +, writes (16 August 2011):
peacegirl2345 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow long are you together?
How long ago did they break up and why did they?
Okai, they broke up in January because she was moving away and he didn't want a long distance relationship.
Who dumped who etc?
He broke up with her.
Did he actually write 'I forgot about you'??
Yes, he did really write that.
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reader, CollegeCutie  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 from my experiences i have found the more jelous you ask the more insecure you look. act like you dont care that they are talking cause in reality hes with you and not with her. You just have to tell yourself the facts " shes the ex your the gf" guys are always going to talk to their exes and not think theres anything wrong with it cause thats just their thought process. if you make him feel guilty when he talks to his ex its just going to make him draw away cause it makes him feel like he cant tell you when hes talking to her or possibly hanging out with her. At least hes telling you what hes really up too if you ask me that is pretty reassuring that hes in to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): I agree with Red Athena. Your boyfriend flat-out admitted that he forgot about you while talking to his ex. You don't deserve that.
Find someone else to date so you don't have to stress about what this guy is up to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): I think it is your business when you're boyfriend is speaking to his ex and he's acting so sheepish about it and saying he forgot about you whilst talking to her.
I don't think you should worry about trusting the ex, seems to me it's your boyfriend you should be worrying about trusting. That wasn't a nice thing to say to you, nor it was right. He shouldn't be talking to his ex in the first place.
Either find out what's going on with your boyfriend and his ex, (whether he still likes her, because it sounds like he might) and why he's keeping his conversations with her discreet, tell him how uncomfortable you feel about him talking to her, or simply dump him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): Hi Peacegirl,You poor love. That sounds like hell.More info would be good tho.How long are you together?How long ago did they break up and why did they?Who dumped who etc?Regardless,Did he actually write 'I forgot about you'... ???!!!Thats so mean. Even as a grown women, I would think thats mean!It souunds like hes stupid (doesnt think before he writes)or that he was trying to actively hurt or annoy you honey by saying that.He should tell you what they were talking about, if its just stuff... (which it should be ... they shouldnt be having chats that you can't hear)There is a fine line between trusting your instinct and being paranoid.. but it sounds like your not being paranoid, its sounds like you SHOULD follow your instinct and not trust this.I would be worried too.He should have you as his number one, and that means he should reassure you, not make you nervous!!If it was something private to her, then he should have said she needed to talk about home stuff or etc, and if it was his personal stuff, he should be telling you!! Not her. You are meant to be the one he talks too, otherwise he is 'emotionally' cheating on you by trusting her more than you and confiding in her and not you. I hope you understand that.Try to find out what that chat was about. FROM HIM. not her. Do not give her the satisfaction again EVER to know that you are upset because of her. You basically said to her all the things she wanted to probably hear. 'EH, my boyfriend wont tell me about what you talked about. Im upset but thats not as important to him etc etc'.Maybe he's not worth this.Make him work to have you, not the other way round!!xx
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (12 August 2011):
 Do not ask her about personal conversations she has with friends. It really is not your business.
However, if your BF seems secretive and keeps forgetting about you...say nothing. Find someone else to date.
You need to be able to trust HIM-his ex is irrelvant. Do not worry about a girl that provides tempation, you want a guy who refuses to be tempted.
Good Luck.
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