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writes:I asked my same sex friend out whom I flirt with a lot!! And I know dumb of me to ask thru text but its been eating at me for two yrs and I know she says she is straight so I told her i am okay with her not wanting to date me but that I had to tell her but I hope we can stay friends and nothing has to change because come on there is no way she didn't know i liked her. I never hid it but I never verbally said it until recently.Now she is avoiding me and doesn't want to hang out and its killing me because this is the reason i kept it in for 2 yrs but it was seriously driving me crazy. I cried almost everyday about it for a month cause I was debating telling her or not. So she turned me down but she is the one acting like i rejected her. Shouldn't I be the upset one? Shouldn't I be the who is acting distant and weird?? She drives me crazy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): I'm the one who asked the question and I just want to say thank you guys for helping me out soo much!!! I'm just gonna give her some space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): You shouldn't be upset because she's the one freaking out! She needs time and watch her if she doesn't want to be ur friend, you gotta understand
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): I think you did the right thing. It's hard to control that voice inside you that screams you love somebody. I am surprised you lasted two years!
Good luck with the future girl search, Jill!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): I'm sorry to to hear how you are feeling and i understand completely while you feel this way. I think your probably best to give her some space because you don't know how she is feeling at the present moment in time.Give it a week or so and txt her normaly as you would do asking her how she is and ask her if everything is ok and that you have been concerned since you told her your feelings for her. You could try telling her egzactly what you have told us about but in a casual way. say for instance, you just wanted to get it off your chest, despite the outcome. You have done nothing wrong is please don't feel bad. If she says she's not interested then you will have to except it for that but say that you would still like to remain friends with her. best of luck to you
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (12 August 2011):
She may not be comfortable with the fact that you are a lesbian.
Also, if you have ever had to shower after working out or change clothes in the same room, she may be freaked out about you seeing her, its almost like finding out a guy has been spying on you through a peephole in your room. Are you going to like that guy?
I am not going to go into the whole morality of whether or not your sexual preference is OK, but the fact is that she may not be comfortable with it and that is what you had to deal with.
On the surface she may seem OK with people being gay, but its a different story when a woman has feelings for her.
You should really just let her be.
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reader, peacegirl2345 +, writes (12 August 2011):
 Its good that you let it out. If shes doing that than maybe shes just thinking about it. I am bisexual but I understand how it is. Most likely shes just trying to take it all in. Just give her time, it will get better.
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