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writes:There is this guy i am texting, he has a busy life from what i know so i can understand why he doesn't text back quickly. But the fact he takes 2 hours at MINIMUM to reply!!? And the other times it's like 5 hours!! What is up with that, it's just stupid. And it really puts me off him, because i only receive two texts a day so it is taking very, very long to get to know him!I mean I do like him and he does seem interested but it's just tedious now. What should i do? Should i be patient or just not bother with him? Other guys i've texted before took a while too, but never this crazy long... I don't want to say anything to him about it because it's only been a week.....??So what is your view on this?
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reader, Missy00 +, writes (25 May 2011):
 You all had wonderful words of wisdom. (I had the same issue with texting) If the guy that you like doesn't text you back chances are he doesn't like to text. Call him. What do you have to lose?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2011): Why not just call him? You're not going to get to know a person over a text message. FYI 2 hours isn't a huge amount of time if you have a life. Sitting by the phone waiting for a text comes across as desperate.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 May 2011):
My view is that you can't get to know someone just by text. You need to be speaking in person, meeting, dating etc. You can't just be texting.
Also, does he have a job? If so, then it's unreasonable of you to expect replies if he has other pressing things that he has to do at work.
Finally - it's only been one week! That's a bit too soon to be expecting major replies to text when you're barely even dating.
Arrange a date and speak in person. And bear in mind that texting from work it harder than it seems.
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reader, Wheeler +, writes (24 May 2011):
 Some people are just not connected at the hip to their phone. My brother would set his phone down and not look at it for 8 hours. And when he did, he would rarely bother responding to all the calls or texts.
Then again, I have dated girls before that saw their phone as a lifeline, and were constantly texting. Of the two I would almost rather someone not care about their phone.
If he is consistently slow to reply, then he is probably just that kind of person. If so, try to let that go and focus on other means of communication. The easy answer is that this means you should probably invite him to coffee or for a beer, and actually spend some face time with him. That is much better than anything via phone anyway.
For those who live on Facebook, texts, lol's, roflmao's, and the like, it is very hard to understand people who simply don't care about being constantly involved with their phone. I would suggest you consider the positive possibilities. Perhaps, if you were to start dating him, you would begin to rely less on your phone. That couldn't be a bad thing, huh?
I would put myself somewhere in the middle. I do prefer to text when I don't feel like having an unnecessary conversation. If there is just one question that needs answering or whatnot. At the same time, I probably put too much consideration into what I say at times. So, I won't respond for a while. Or, I may get busy and never reply even though I intended to.
Last year I went on a whitewater rafting and camping trip. When we got there, we turned off all of our phones, except for one person who was the contact person for anyone that needed to reach us in case of emergency.
The first day it was honestly very weird not even having my phone with me, and not having contact with the outside world. But by the second day, I realized how much mental clutter my phone also brought to my life. It was very liberating to not have that even be a possibility.
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reader, Lovelylove +, writes (24 May 2011):
Hiya Chick, guys eh haha just kidding, babes i know exactly how you feel there is this guy i am texting with the exact problem, it turns out he was only busy with college and work, I felt like i was annoying him texting him alot, it got to the point where I text saying why are you not replying, if your not interested just tell me, he text back shortly afterwards and apologised, he told me the whole reason that he didn't text backand he arranged a dinner date for us to make it up to me, we are now what he likes to call 'friends with benefits' makes me feel naughty :P, maybe you should just text him, like I did and the outcome hopefully will be good for you aswell. hope this helps hunny :) let me know how you get on.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (24 May 2011):
 Err..you cant get to know someone over text.
If you are serious about wanting to get to know him, CALL him and set up a date.
Yes it is tedious, but you started it. Not everyone converses by text, I havent used texting to have a "conversation" since I was about 15 (Im 21).
This is your problem, not theirs. Abandon the tech stuff and get back to reality!
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