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writes: I have been dating the same guy for three months. We have been intimate for about two months now. There was a time after he and I were sleeping together that he had sex with someone else, an ex of his, once. He was very open and honest about it and we worked through that part. Before him, I had not had sex in over two years. Now, I have been to my doctor and I have genital herpes. I need to know how to let him know that I have to have gotten it from him and him from her. Everything was fine before he slept with her. I know he loves me and she isn't even an issue but I need to know how to break the news to him gingerly. Thanks for any advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2005): Thanks for the advice and of course I am going to tell him, I just really need some advice as to exactly how to do it.
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (7 December 2005):
 Sweetness, you must be the most understanding woman I have come across in a long time, seriously.i hope this guy appreciates you for the understanding person you are.Why the blazes should you break it to him gingerly?Bladdy hell, man... This guy slept around on you, you were good enough to be the better person and be willing to work through this with him, and now... he brings back her nasty germs and infects you with genital herpes???Girl, you need to let him know immediately, he has to take responsibility for this, and he also needs to know more importantly, so as to get himself checked out at the GP as well, or he could well keep re- infecting you.Well, I can tell you, I take my hat off to you for being so nice about all this.You should be called Wonderful Woman... but then, Crazy Woman also sounds acceptable? Take Care and Be Safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2005): Sorry honey, but you have to tell him. Part of a good relationship is communicating your needs, wants, and dis-wants and dis-needs. A part of the communication is to share your ailments, your illnesses, and unhappiness of course! Just sit down with him, and do your part - show him the reports. That's what I would want my gf to tell me if I gave her that!!
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