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writes:i've been with my bf for 4 years now and he slept with 2 girls before me, he was my first and i still get really mad and upset when i think about his last words, will that feeling ever go away? he said it only lasted about 5 mins each and he slept with them when he was drunk, so i feel a litle better that i'm his first for a lot of things in the bedroom, i just want the feeling that i have to go away, i hate them
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (1 March 2008):
You're annoyed with him because of something he is in no position to do anything about.
Condemning him for something like this is one of the quickest ways to ruin what relationshuip you have left.
It is no big deal that he slept with anybody before he slept with you - before you were on the scene so to say. He is now with you and I gather by what you have written not sleeping around with anybody else since he has been with you so he is entirely faithful. He has even chosen to tell you about his past - something he needent have done. If you get hung up about his past he will soon get peeved off with you and move on. I know in this position I would.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 why do you hate them? its not their fault - people have sex!! just cos you were his first, you shouldn't condemn him for sleeping with someone - before he even knew you! the fact is he chose you, he is with you. he shouldn't have to apologise for his past life - its not as if he cheated or anything! my boyf slept with ppl before me and i dont care - its not a sin. why are you letting something so natural get to you? i think that you should grow up and realise that he didn't do this with any malice!! no offence or anything but it is a bit irrational to be annoyed with someone just because they had a sex life before you. i think that you should get over it and enjoy the fact that he sees more in you than drunken sex, and that he wants more than it - he is in a relationship with you!!
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