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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years and for a while now I have been wanting to have a baby with him. I have tried to talk to him about it and every time he tells me that he is not financially ready. We both have good jobs and make good money. He says that is the only reason but I can't help but think there might be something else? He says there isn't another reason. He already has 2 kids and he is a great dad to them so he can't be scared about becoming a parent. He tells me that he is serious about the relationship and wants to be with me.I feel like I'm in a no-win situation. He is a big part of the reason I decided I wanted to become a mother - I knew he would be a good father for my child and would always be there. I can't imagine wanting to start a family with anyone else. I'm afraid to wait for the chance he might change his mind someday. Im devastated right now... I feel like the man I love is denying me the chance to be a mother and does not want the family that I want with him.
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reader, Dave70 +, writes (2 March 2008):
 u r in a no win situation if u stay w him only. find a husband who wants kids, he is a boyfriend who dont want what u do. hes got about 5 to 10 more yrs b4 he decides different or with a new woman he will change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Maybe he dosen't want to risk losing you. You say he has two kids already, the fact that he's with you says to me that the relationship with their mother didn't work out. It's possible that the children were the reason for the break up and he is really scared of losing you.
Or it could simply be that he has two children and dosen't want any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Maybe you just need to give him some time, guys are often intimidated by the thought of babies no matter what they're like with them when they're actually in the world. Honey, make sure you dont pressure him into it, but let him know how much you'd really love one. He should do his best to understand your natural urge to want children of your own, so make sure you talk to him about it rationally. Even tempt him sexually, you never know.. :]
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